Admissions: A Memoir of Surviving Boarding School
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Admissions: A Memoir of Surviving Boarding School

Hardcover – January 18, 2022

Price
$15.99
Format
Hardcover
Pages
304
Publisher
Grand Central Publishing
Publication Date
ISBN-13
978-1538753484
Dimensions
6.5 x 1 x 9.25 inches
Weight
1.06 pounds

Description

“[C]harming and surprising. . .xa0The work of Admissions is laying down, with wit and care, the burden James assumed at 15, that she — or any Black student, or all Black students — would manage the failures of a racially illiterate community. . .xa0The best depiction of elite whiteness I’ve read, nailing the belonging derived from institutional affiliation, which is therefore impersonal and false, but manifests value in spite of this. James writes to illuminate her experience as a Black student at Taft. She throws just as much light on the school’s whiteness.”― New York Times “The book is, not incidentally, an excellent memoir. James is unsparing and hilarious about her adolescent foibles, her outré fashion choices and insistence on telling everyone about her hobby of writing erotic fan fiction.”xa0― Los Angeles Times "With humor, insight, and a near-superhuman depth of grace, James straddles an ever-shifting line as the school’s first Black American legacy. . . The isolation that James captures, the uneasy and unspoken cease-fire she negotiates with whiteness at Taft, becomes an echo of the experiences of so many other students of color at the same schools that make up the world of the American elite. She takes up our repressed feelings and gives voice to the untold tales of neglect and disregard, of camaraderie and solidarity and survival, of those of us who were brought into spaces without anyone considering how we would fit."― The Cut “[James] offers sharp-witted insight, incisive reflections and an intense indictment of the cutthroat world of elite prep schools."― Parade “Thorough, necessary, and overdue. . . [ Admissions ] boldly nam[es] the confusion, fear, and trauma that can so often come with being the only person who looks like you in any given room.”― Vogue.com “Frank and devastating in its candor, as well as incisive in its critique of elite academia, Admissions is a poignant coming-of-age memoir.”― Esquire.com "James's memoir is a thoughtful story about coming-of-age and finding your place in the world; she's a funny, observant writer with a powerful, unforgettable story to tell."― Town & Country "[A]n eye-opening examination of race, class, and privilege in America."― Publishers Weekly "What an extraordinary, razor-sharp book! Kendra James offers a gimlet-eyed insider’s view of being an outsider, painting the complicated world of elite schooling with such vividness and dark humor. This is a crucial account for our moment—asking and answering the question of how power is held, shifted, and grasped after by even the youngest in our society. I raced through the pages of Admissions , hungry for James’s voice and brilliant insights. The schooling she writes about may have been exclusive, but this book will electrify every reader."― R. Eric Thomas, bestselling author Here For It “Through frequent pop culture allusions and a dry sense of humor, Kendra James reveals a world largely unexamined—the life of an American Black girl at a prestigious boarding school. Readers will shake their heads at young Kendra’s nerdy naïveté and frown at her classmates’ bigotry and bullying. As Kendra discovers the fallout of her own parents’ respectability politics and intraracial biases, she also learns more about her own identity and how she wants to navigate her life. Kendra James’ honest reflections as she looks back on what it means to be Not Like the Others will leave readers thinking about their own experiences with privilege and marginalization. Admissions is a captivating memoir, highlighting the complicated notions of upward mobility, belonging, entitlement, and community. Kendra has written a true eye-opener.”― Nichole Perkins, author of Sometimes I Trip on How Happy We Could Be "In Admissions , [James] deconstructs the chokehold that whiteness and wealth have on private education. You’ll laugh almost as much as you cringe."― Glamour “James’ social commentary and sparkling wit shine throughout this absorbing and insightful coming-of-age memoir."― Booklist "With wit and insight, Admissions explores the kind of upper-class education that most Americans have seen only in movies. James analyzes the racist attitudes she had to deal with, tells funny stories of her nerdy ways and fondly recalls the days of AIM chats. People of color who survived mostly white schools are sure to sympathize with James's experiences, but anyone will enjoy her perceptive storytelling."― Shelf Awareness " Admissions is a memoir of the highest caliber."― Bitch Media "James has crafted a book that is part Bildungsroman, part social indictment and part scorching criticism of elite boarding schools. She meticulously skewers the behavior of her white classmates as alternately clueless and cruel and vividly conveys the captious claustrophobia that thrives in such institutions."― Waterbury Republican American “Admissions is an open and honest social critique of race in the US, as well as the coming-of-age story of a Black girl who is getting an education in a predominantly white boarding school.”― Book Reporter Kendra James was a founding editor at Shondaland.com where she wrote and edited work for two years. She has been heard and seen on NPR and podcasts including "Thirst Aid Kit," "Three Swings,” “Star Trek: The Pod Directive,” “The Canon," and "Al Jazeera." Her writing has been published widely from Elle, Marie Claire, Women's Health Magazine, Lenny, The Verge, Harpers, Catapult, and The Toast , among others.

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  • NAMED A BEST NONFICTION BOOK OF 2022 BY ESQUIRE “[C]harming and surprising. . . The work of
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  • is laying down, with wit and care, the burden James assumed at 15, that she — or any Black student, or all Black students — would manage the failures of a racially illiterate community. . . The best depiction of elite whiteness I’ve read.”—
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  • Early on in Kendra James’ professional life, she began to feel like she was selling a lie. As an admissions officer specializing in diversity recruitment for independent prep schools, she persuaded students and families to embark on the same perilous journey she herself had made—to attend cutthroat and largely white schools similar to The Taft School, where she had been the first African-American legacy student only a few years earlier. Her new job forced her to reflect on her own elite education experience, and to realize how disillusioned she had become with America’s inequitable system. In ADMISSIONS, Kendra looks back at the three years she spent at Taft, chronicling clashes with her lily-white roommate, how she had to unlearn the respectability politics she'd been raised with, and the fall-out from a horrifying article in the student newspaper that accused Black and Latinx students of being responsible for segregation of campus. Through these stories, some troubling, others hilarious, she deconstructs the lies and half-truths she herself would later tell as an admissions professional, in addition to the myths about boarding schools perpetuated by popular culture. With its combination of incisive social critique and uproarious depictions of elite nonsense, ADMISSIONS will resonate with anyone who has ever been The Only One in a room, dealt with racial microaggressions, or even just suffered from an extreme case of homesickness.

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Most Helpful Reviews

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Interesting peek behind the curtains

This is fascinating, horrifying, and sad all at once. I'm glad to have heard the author's experience, but furious at what was allowed to happen and devastated by what it cost her. The extra burdens placed on the author didn't belong on a teenager, who should have been able to learn and grow as her nerdgirl self without being asked to put up with endless insults and injustices, to say nothing of everyday microaggressions and othering. I hope telling her story was cathartic and that it reaches people who need to hear it.

Many thanks to the publisher and NetGalley for the opportunity to read and review!
12 people found this helpful
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Meh. Needed an Editor…

I wanted to like this. I generally like memoirs, and this one, about education, class, race, and gender, should’ve been up my alley. But the book needed an editor. Too many superbly trivial details that detracted from the narrative. Too little clarity about a key aspect of the author’s point of view: was she irritated about being a legacy but not having that noticed or ‘planned for’ by people at Taft, including the Black woman who advised her?
5 people found this helpful
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Good boarding school memoir

This is my first memoir read in 2022 and I am glad to start off the year with a good one. This is the 4th memoir set at least partly in boarding school that I’ve read, and I would say that I am drawn to this setting in fiction too.

I thought this was a very engaging read that addresses microaggressions in the world of preparatory boarding schools. I think this book really highlighted how insular of a community these can be, and how those who didn’t fit the “typical” prep school student were treated differently and not fully integrated into the community.

I really liked Kendra and her friends and enjoyed reading about the drama and relationships. I think if you don’t like reading high school settings, this won’t appeal to you but I really liked it.

I would definitely recommend this book.
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Lost interest

I definitely liked the idea behind this book. I was really excited for a discussion about being Black in a white space. But I felt this book really only scraped the surface. I’d imagine if you were one of the authors classmates, you’d probably be on the edge of your seat. But I lost interest around the story of them taking their classmates locs out. I typically finish books, but I tapped out early with this one.
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Really Good Book

Boarding schools fascinate me. I feel it’s possible boarding schools fascinate many people, largely because none of us had the resources or opportunity to attend any of the elite boarding schools in the United States. Most of us don’t have the resources necessary for boarding schools to be considered, and most of us couldn’t imagine going to school in a place where we had to SLEEP, LIVE, and LEARN all in the same place. Nope, I appreciate that when my learning day was done, I got to go to a place that wasn’t associated with the learning. I had a home that was completely separate from where I went to school. However, like many educated humans, we understand that those who had the resources required to attend a boarding school had a bit of an upper hand in this game we call life.
Kenda James, on more than one occasion, admits she had a certain level of privilege. That’s not the primary focus of this book, but it was one of those chips on my own shoulders when I started reading. I didn’t want to feel anything other than disdain for Kenda James, because she had this neat thing called opportunity that wasn’t available to us poverty-stricken kids wading through the mediocre trenches of public school. There was a section when she was describing her conversation with a college admissions counselor that stuck out for me. I was absolutely floored. This guy had knowledge of her interests and activities and was able to suggest schools that aligned with those. He also was able to determine she didn’t want to go to an all-girls school and didn’t want to go to a school that was close to home, though he did point out the benefits she might receive if she were to go there (it would Rutgers, imagine turning your nose up at Rutgers?). He was extremely knowledgeable about both her and the prospective colleges. When I sat down with a counselor to discuss college back when I was in high school, the message was pretty much: “don’t bother, you won’t get in.” While she was correct (I refused to take two years of a second language, I didn’t see the point…30 years later, I regret not taking Spanish), there was no effort put into ME. At all. She just looked over my grades and said it was unlikely I’d be successful in college. I did, in fact, go to college. I even graduated from college (Go Lobos), whereas many of my peers that had been touted as those who would be successful, never even tried. I wonder how my own life would have been different if I had had that one adult that believed in me, like this one admissions counselor believed in her.
This shouldn’t be a huge surprise, but I’m a white girl. I have no knowledge of what it’s like to not be a while girl. Recent events have helped me realize that I also have privilege, simply because I was born a white girl. Reading this book was an eye opener for many reasons. The term “microaggression” wasn’t even on my radar prior to the “me-too” movement. Now, though, it’s all I can think about when I encounter misogyny on a daily basis. I smile, nod, and imagine I’m squishing heads rather than get outwardly angry. Kendra James had to deal with racism AND misogyny. There’s a section where James talks about the conversations that were had surrounding the college acceptances and rejections that made me want to hunt down her former classmates and put pins in their eyes. According to many of her classmates, the only reason any person got into any college is due to affirmation action. Kendra James had an outstanding academic record, she had great extras, and she was a phenomenal writer, allowing for what I assume were some great essays on applications. But some of her classmates decided her only claim to a good college was the color of her skin (my opinions on affirmative action are a very different conversation, best had with a bottle of tequila). It made me sick to my stomach. Her account of her time at this exclusive school shows that privilege can butt heads with racism. It was truly fascinating, and Kendra James is very good with words. I cannot possibly recommend this book enough.
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I Read Half the Book Only

Is it because she is black or is it because she is "quirky", that she had problems fitting in? She jumped all over the place with this "dilemma". It is a sad "given" that she'd have difficulties being black in a white private school, but weren't some of her problems linked to her personality?