Bad Childhood---Good Life: How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of an Unhappy Childhood
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Bad Childhood---Good Life: How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of an Unhappy Childhood

Paperback – May 29, 2007

Price
$12.49
Format
Paperback
Pages
257
Publisher
Harper
Publication Date
ISBN-13
978-0060577872
Dimensions
5.31 x 0.61 x 8 inches
Weight
7.2 ounces

Description

“[Dr. Laura] offers conservative commonsense advice framed in maxims...She makes a good case for proceeding cautiously...For Dr. Laura, a good life is a combination of ‘what you do, what you mean to others, how you handle life’s normal challenges, and how much you appreciate your blessings and opportunities.’....Highly recommended.” — Library Journal In this important book, Dr. Laura Schlessinger shows men and women that they can have a Good Life no matter how Bad their Childhood. For each of us, there is a connection between our early family dynamics and experiences and our current attitudes and decisions. Many of the people Dr. Laura has helped did not realize how their histories impacted their adult lives, or how their choices in people, repetitive situations, and decisions -- even their emotional reactions -- were connected to those early negative experiences, playing a major role in their current unhappiness. For these people and millions like them, too much time is dedicated to repeating the ugly dynamics of childhood in a vain attempt to repair or cope with deep hurt and longings. Too often they use their emotional pain to control others or excuse their own inappropriate and destructive behaviors. Some turn to therapy, only to find themselves trapped in their self-pitying victim mode, robbed of optimism, confidence, and growth. Dr. Laura will help you realize that no matter what circumstances you came from or currently live in, you are ultimately responsible for how you react to them. The acceptance of this basic truth is the source of your power to secure the Good Life you long for. In her signature straightforward style, with real-life examples, Dr. Laura shows you what you will gain by not being satisfied with an identity as a victim, or even as a survivor -- but striving to be a victor! In Bad Childhood -- Good Life , Dr. Laura will guide you to accept the truth of the assaults on your psyche and soul, understand your unique coping style and how it impacts your daily thoughts and actions, and help you embrace a life of more peace and happiness. Bad Childhood -- Good Life comes from a compassionate and personal place. Dr. Laura also reveals some of her own experiences with a difficult childhood and what efforts it took to attain a Good Life. She writes, "My resilience has paid off, and I'm doing the best I can with what I've got." Now you can, too. One of the most popular hosts in radio history—with millions of listeners weekly—Dr. Laura Schlessinger has been offering no-nonsense advice infused with a strong sense of personal responsibility for more than 40 years.xa0Her internationally syndicated radio program is now on SiriusXM Triumph Channel 111, and is streamed on the Internet and podcast. She's a best-selling author of eighteen books, which range from the provocative ( New York Times chart topper The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands ) to the poignant (children's book Why Do You Love Me? ).xa0xa0She's on Instagram and Facebook (with over 1.7 million followers), and her Call of the Day podcast has exceeded one hundred million downloads.xa0She has raised millions for veterans and their families with her boutique, DrLauraDesigns.com, which benefits the Children of Fallen Patriots Foundation. Dr. Laura holds a Ph.D. in physiology from Columbia University's College of Physicians and Surgeons, and received her post-doctoral certification in Marriage, Family, and Child Counseling from the University of Southern California. She was in private practice for 12 years. She has been inducted into the National Radio Hall of Fame, received an award from the Office of the Secretary of Defense for her Exceptional Public Service, and was the first woman ever to win the National Association of Broadcasters' prestigious Marconi Award for Network/Syndicated Personality. Read more

Features & Highlights

  • "There is extraordinary quality of spirit that leads one to aspire to conquering rather than surviving. I hope you discover that spirit in yourself.” — Dr. Laura
  • The #1 national bestselling author and popular syndicated radio host shows men and women that they can have a good life no matter how much they struggled in their childhood.
  • Bad Childhood—Good Life
  • aims to help you accept the truth of the assault on your psyche, understand your unique coping style and how it impacts your daily thoughts and actions, and guide you into a life of more peace and happiness.
  • For each one of us, there is a connection between our early family experiences and our current behavior. Many of the people Dr. Laura has helped did not realize how their histories impacted their adult lives, or how their choices—even their emotional reactions—were connected to their early years, playing a major role in their current unhappiness. In this hopeful, practical guide, written in her signature straightforward style and filled with real-life examples, Dr. Laura helps readers realize that no matter what circumstances they come from or currently live in, they are each ultimately responsible for their own actions and reactions as adults. Throughout, she shows the gains to be had by not being satisfied with an identity as a victim, or even as a survivor. Instead she helps readers from all walks of life strive to be the best they can each be—a victor!

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Don’t be too prideful to read this book- I DONT CARE IF YOU HATE DR.LAURA

After reading this on kindle I bought 9 copies of this book for each of my brothers- that’s how good this book is!
It will: hurt your feelings, make you cry, make you transcend biological relationships, have second thoughts about how you’re raising your own children etc.
I can see why people dislike Dr. L, they’re too sensitive, prideful and or weak to help themselves and she cuts like a knife to the problem. Who has time to skirt around their problems? Get the help you need- even if it hurts- life’s too short to be sad and depressed- unless of course you like being the victim.
30 people found this helpful
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very thought provoking

Dr. Laura really hit the nail on the head when it comes to my childhood. I have successfully "survived" my childhood as a product of divorce, manipulation, neglect, and mental abuse. This book helps people move on and gives those that have moved on a different way to look back.
10 people found this helpful
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it's time to pick up this book!

Everyone and I mean everyone should read this book!! It will handle so many of your inner giants that need to be taken down!! I felt like I let go of so many negatives that were holding me back. I felt lighter and freer. Dr. Laura Schlesinger does an amazing job of pushing you outside your familiar zone to get you to see your life, your situations from a clearer perspective. It's time to be brave make some changes and pick up this book you will not be disappointed.
5 people found this helpful
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Full of excellent, practical help

I am probably one of the only people who's never heard Dr. Laura's program (I hate talk radio); so I read this book with absolutely no preconceived notions about the author or what she would say. It was recommended to be by a very dear friend, who thought it could help me with my own struggles with my family situation.

I have read several books over the past few months in an effort to come to terms and some degree of understanding of my own family situation, past and present. Of all of them I have to say this one was the most helpful, hands down.

Dr. Laura strikes a perfect balance of sympathy and pragmatism. She readily admits that really bad things do happen to people by those who are supposed to love and nurture them during their formative years (in the postscript she even shares her own extremely difficult relationships with her parents). However, she stresses that once we leave childhood behind, we are then in control of our own life, and responsible for the direction it will take. From that point on it is the choices we ourselves make that determine what kind of life we will have. She makes clear, not just through her own words but through the numerous calls and letters from listeners that she cites in her book, that wallowing in the trauma and hurt of the past will do nothing to change or fix the present or the future. If we want to have a Good Life (and who doesn't?) we must make a conscious decision to do so and begin the process one step at a time. It is not easy, and depending on how traumatic our childhood was and our particular personality, it can be very difficult; but it is absolutely do-able. It is all about shedding the victim mentality. It is all about giving to others. It is all about resilience.

The other books I have read on emotional development, family dynamics, etc. seem to dwell pretty heavily on theory. I suppose that may be helpful for some, but for me it is not much help at all. I need to see practical examples, I need to see what that theory looks like when applied to real life. What makes Dr. Laura's book such a standout from the others is that it is almost all practical application, and very little if any theory. Her advice, which is at times almost brutal in its honesty, gets down to the nitty gritty of where we live. There are no lofty phrases or concepts here; even a teenager could readily grasp what she has to say.

This book really, really made me think; I am still thinking and have ordered a copy for myself because I will definitely want to re-read this. In several places it made me cry. If you want practical, real-life advice for how to overcome the damaging effects of a difficult upbringing and begin making a better life for yourself, I don't know of a better book than this one.
5 people found this helpful
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Excellent read!

Extremely well written and to the point. Would highly recommend to everyone. Even for those who had a good childhood, it can provide a deeper understanding of the behaviors and patterns of those we love and believe in.
3 people found this helpful
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This book can help you understand your childhood/parents better. It changed my life.

I had a lot of issues with my mom until my 30s. I heard Dr. Laura talk about her book. I bought it, read it, and it changed my life! One line got me. My parents would be the same no matter who their kids were (or something like that). I felt that I got the brunt of the unfairness between the kids. Once I read this book, all the annoyances rolled off me like water off a duck's back. My friends wondered what happened. I told them. I highly recommend this, even if your parents weren't that bad. I'm SO much happier now with my mom. She was never bad, but I just took everything way too personally.
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Find another book.... unless you really have never even reflected on your problems.

This is a poorly written book. It is full of filler and childhood antidotes. *Barf* The fact that this is a best seller really shows how far down the bar is. I would say a good 1/4 of this book is filled with drawn out radio discussions that are suppose to serve as an example. This discussion then ends in antidotes like "be happy for what you have" or "you can't change others only yourself". While she does rephrase them it is not educated or deep wisdom. The whole first chapter talks about how you can't be the victim or let it define you.

The reason this book sucked to me. Is while I am not be perfect, I am a functional adult from a disfunctional childhood. I don't have drug problems, or issues with my children or spouse. I fill my role well. However I do, evey year get down and sad. I miss my family, I know all the things she is telling me of how to look at it. But I was looking for healing. Not common logic.
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this is one of the best books I have read about getting over your past ...

this is one of the best books I have read about getting over your past as a childhood and letting go and move on,Highly recommended.
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Behavior is habit

This book is pertinent even for those who did not have a 'bad' childhood. Be patient with it, and you will find yourself gaining a lot of insight about yourself as well as others. Dr. Laura is a wealth of experience.
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Excellent, positively-focused book!

I am a clinical psychologist and picked this book up in a thrift store without any real expectations. After all, could a book written by a pop psychologist really be any good? But I was pleasantly surprised. Although I can't say I really learned any new concepts, the gem was in Dr. Laura's excellent writing style, use of valuable metaphors, ability to confront patients/callers on their relished "victimhood," and focus on the positives. She encourages people to radically accept their parents and childhood, including the problems and limitations, and find a way to move on a live a good life anyway.

Some people reading this book may struggle with it, because it bluntly disparages tendencies to wallow in self-pity and strongly encourages a positive attitude (many are not ready to do this). But I'm sure it can also be a great inspiration to others. It can also give therapists new ideas on things to say to clients to help them move forward in a good direction.
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