But It's Your Family . . .: Cutting Ties with Toxic Family Members and Loving Yourself in the Aftermath

Cancel culture has no place in family relationships. No one should simply walk away from family members. Growth comes from setting boundaries, seeing and trying to understand both sides of every issue and open, honest communication. Family is forever and you find a way to make it work. The advice in this book doesn't lead to self love but to regret.

I've read and re-read this book and will probably even read it again. I'm almost 63 years old and even though I've had extensive therapy to overcome a very disfunctional family, this book helped me realize just how much I've been manipulated, emotionally abused and held hostage by my own sense of obligation to "family". It has helped me on an entirely new level. I always, always was the one to apologize and keep toxic family relationships going at a huge cost to myself. No more. Thank you Dr. Campbell!

This book explains why it’s okay, even good, to cut ties with toxic family members.

The author, Dr. Campbell, understands what it’s like to grow up in a family that wasn’t nurturing. She UNDERSTANDS.

Dr. Campbell addresses a big issue for many people of faith and the reason why I chose this book over others: What about forgiveness or honoring your father and mother? Dr. Campbell explains in detail and with a lot of hand-holding that by letting go we are honoring a family member’s choice to be who they are without using forgiveness and kindness to try to change them into what we need. (She said it more elegantly.)

Another big issue, for me anyway, was how do you explain to outsiders what’s going on? Dr. Campbell says outsiders cannot understand. (Unless they are trained professionals.) I love that Dr. Campbell explains WHY outsiders can’t understand.

Dr. Campbell rants a lot about her mom, so I almost took off a star, but then all her ranting just proves that she really does understand.

Sometimes the writing is dense. Long paragraphs of deep thoughts. Take your time, take notes. Absorb what Dr. Campbell is saying. It’s worth it.

Five stars.

Dr. Sherrie Campbell has shown in BUT IT'S YOUR FAMILY how to handle difficult and sometimes even abusive family relationships. This is an area that can be hard to talk about but has such a great impact on our lives. She directs us how to modify ties to be able to still love them but from a safe distance. In a world of ever Increasing complexity and challenging family dynamics this is valuable knowledge indeed!

I love how relatable her story is. Her story is heartbreaking. I walk away feeling inspired, strong, and deserving of love.

This book is amazing! It really helps you understand and evaluate your problems, but also offers solutions and advice to help you through it. There is so much empathy that Dr.Sherrie Campbell offers.

Start healing yourself, this book will help give you permission, perspective, and inspiration to do so.

This is something I’ve needed to read for a long time. Truly life altering. She also references several other books in her book. I no longer feel alone in this. Thank you!

I actually purchased the digital version and loved it so much I purchased the paperback to give to my Mom. I hope my Mom gets it and finds it as helpful as I did.

This book is phenomenal!
It is both validating and life changing. A very easy read, with each chapter building exquisitely to the next. I didn't want it to end. This author brings hope to people who have suffered silently for years, giving this all to common abuse a name and a face. BRAVO!!!!
Diana Oehl