Created for Connection: The "Hold Me Tight" Guide for Christian Couples

This book is very insightful. There are some new techniques and idea on marriage I have never heard of before. When you think about everything that’s written in this book it makes sense. Some might find it a little disheartening because it shows who is likely to get a divorce but all I will say is read the entire book. The reason for the 4 stars is because I felt like the book rambled a bit. Some info was good and some felt like just filler. I hate reading filler.

Despite being a Christian, I was reluctant to read more Christian relationship books after reading several stressful disasters. I value the truth and found Christian authors prone to offering overconfident opinions and a few overly familiar scriptures to back up their opinions and nonsense. That said, I was willing to give this topic another chance because I trusted Dr. Sue Johnson from the intellectual point of view, having read[[ASIN:B084G9QFZY Hold Me Tight]]and remembering Gottman's endorsement. So I gave this book a chance, and it didn't disappoint. There is a lot of conceptual overlap on 'Hold me Tight,' which is useful because spaced repetition aids learning. The 7 conversations were similar but focused especially on the Christian perspective, which I found useful not least because I could see that Christians can face similar problems. I also appreciated hearing more examples because I understand the concepts better after seeing them applied in different contexts. One chapter theorized about attachment theory as it related to the nature of God, which I was both excited and apprehensive about. Dr. Sue Johnson was the only author I trusted enough to pay attention to for something like that, and this chapter was both intellectually stimulating and plausibly believable. Overall, I consider this book to be a useful supplement to 'Hold Me Tight.'

I highly recommend this book. I would also suggest that if you are married and need guidance, see a therapist specifically trained in the methodology referred to in this book called "Emotionally Focused Therapy." If you have been married for any time, you know you will need help at some point in your marriage; it is hard! Stay the course, read this book and find an EFT therapist.
The book itself is a good size, and the print size is decent, so you may not need to break out the readers.

Recommended highly by our counselor to use

A long read that interests me but not my husband that much

Our counselor had asked us to read this book. Although we don't fight like some of the example couples, there were many take-a-ways that will permanently change how we interact for the better. It is already helping us connect better and feel safer to be open with each other.

Great book to help couples work through and understand each other.

What does it mean to have a relationship? I really want to know!

When reading one has to take themselves out of the picture and just read. Educational

Great read!