Grace Based Discipline: How to Be at Your Best When Your Kids Are at Their Worst
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Grace Based Discipline: How to Be at Your Best When Your Kids Are at Their Worst

Paperback – January 25, 2017

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Price
$13.99
Format
Paperback
Pages
224
Publisher
Family Matters Inc.
Publication Date
ISBN-13
978-0982799345
Dimensions
5.5 x 0.56 x 8.5 inches
Weight
10.2 ounces

Description

"Thank you so much for a God-led book on parenting when it's the hardest but most rewarding thing a person can ever do." Heather (Mom of 4 school aged children) "Karis is relatable and her practical advice can be put to use right away! You'll have a more peaceful relationship with your kids before the end of the first chapter!" Sharla (Mom of 3 young children) "I wish I had this book when my kids were young, but I can't wait to share it with my daughters who're raising their own kids now!" Linda (Grandmother) "This book is so well written and relatable. There are some very important truths with great insight...I wish all new parents could get a copy in their hands!" Andi (Mom of a teen) Karis Kimmel Murray is the oldest daughter of Christian relationship expert and bestselling, award winning author Dr. Tim Kimmel. Karis grew up in the family that was the proving ground for the philosophy that turned traditional Christian parenting advice on its head. Her parent's radical message has helped transform relationships in tens of thousands of Christian families through her father's book, Grace Based Parenting(R), as well as the Grace-Based Parenting (TM) and Grace-Filled Marriage training events and video studies. Her debut book, Grace Based Discipline, builds on her family heritage and insider authority to shed light on what radical, grace-based discipline looks like in a Gospel-centered home. Her step-by-step, grace-based approach to discipline empowers parents to be at their best, even when their kids are at their worst. As the Creative Director for Family Matters(R) (the ministry behind the "grace message", ) Karis writes and speaks to a growing global audience to testify to the powerful influence grace-based parenting had on her upbringing, and as a parent now herself, why she and her husband are raising their daughters the same way. With conversational style and humor, Karis connects with her readers and audiences on a heart level and swaps stories of trial and triumph...straight from the trenches of parenting. Karis is the writer and co-host of the Family Matters Minute, a daily, one-minute radio segment heard by nearly 4.5 Million people every weekday. Karis and her husband Mike reside in Scottsdale, Arizona with their two teenage daughters and a menagerie of pets.

Features & Highlights

  • Every parent wants to know, "How do I discipline my kids?"
  • "Parents face a crazy paradox," says author Karis Kimmel Murray. "We love our kids exactly as they are, but we also love them too much to let them stay that way!"
  • Disciplining kids is tough . . . even on a good day. We just want the 140-character version of what we should do when our kids' behavior scrapes the enamel off our sanity. Here's what God says:
  • "The Lord disciplines the one he loves, " (Hebrews 12: 6).
  • With humor and down-to-earth practicality, Karis shares stories of trial and triumph straight from the trenches of parenting. From the first page, Karis gives desperate parents a reliable recipe for peace, boundaries, and effective discipline.
  • In
  • Grace Based Discipline
  • , learn how to:
  • Stay calm, even when you're staring down the barrel of a loaded toddler
  • Stay calm
  • , even when you're staring down the barrel of a loaded toddler
  • Customize your discipline to your child's unique personality, age and needs
  • Customize your discipline
  • to your child's unique personality, age and needs
  • Set rules based on God's priorities, not yours
  • Set rules
  • based on God's priorities, not yours
  • Apply consequences that really work
  • Apply consequences that really work
  • Here's the good news: you can do this!
  • Responsive, grace-based parents are just ordinary people who've learned to tap into divine help.
  • Be at your best . . . even when your kids are at their worst.
  • Grace Based Discipline
  • will show you how!
  • **************************
  • Special Features Included- 2 "hands-on" projects to help you implement grace-based discipline strategies at home.
  • Kids Flag Page- Did you know that every member of your family might be from different "countries" and live their lives under different "flags?" The Kids Flag Page (R) and Adult Flag Page (R) help you learn about your child's (and your own) unique, God-designed "flag" (personality). This vital insight helps you tailor  your discipline strategies to  your child's unique needs. (Note:  a mini-assessment is included in the book. Links to purchase the complete Kids Flag Page (R) Kit are included for further reference, but are not required to complete this project.)
  • Kids Flag Page
  • - Did you know that every member of your family might be from different "countries" and live their lives under different "flags?" The Kids Flag Page
  • (R)
  • and Adult Flag Page
  • (R)
  • help you learn about your child's (and your own) unique, God-designed "flag" (personality). This vital insight helps you tailor  your discipline strategies to  your child's unique needs. (
  • Note:
  • a mini-assessment is included in the book. Links to purchase the complete Kids Flag Page
  • (R)
  • Kit are included for further reference, but are not required to complete this project.)
  • DIY Rulebook: step-by-step instructions to lead your family in brainstorming, categorizing, prioritizing and then writing a Family Code of rules and principles that are based on God's word and in line with your own family's unique culture.
  • DIY Rulebook
  • :
  • step-by-step instructions to lead your family in brainstorming, categorizing, prioritizing and then writing a
  • Family Code
  • of rules and principles
  • that are
  • based on God's word
  • and in line with your own
  • family's unique culture
  • .
  • **************************
  • What others are saying about
  • Grace Based Discipline
  • :
  • "Thank you so much for a God-led book on parenting when it's the hardest but most rewarding thing a person can ever do."
  • Heather (Mom of 4 school aged children)
  • "Karis is relatable and her practical advice can be put to use right away! You'll have a more peaceful relationship with your kids before the end of the first chapter!"
  • Sharla (Mom of 3 young children)
  • "I wish I had this book when my kids were young, but I can't wait to share it with my daughters who're raising their own kids now!"
  • Linda (Grandmother)
  • "This book is so well written and relatable. There are some very important truths with great insight...I wish all new parents could get a copy in their hands!"
  • Andi (Mom of a teen)
  • **************************

Customer Reviews

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Love that the daughter is writing this

Love that the daughter is writing this! Love the way she writes! She’s funny and it’s a pretty easy read!
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Five Stars

good read!
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Five Stars

GREAT book. Highly recommended.
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Refreshing and Freeing

I’m unsure of how I initially came across Grace Based Discipline by Karis Kimmel Murray but I’m thankful I came across it nonetheless. The title had been on my Thriftbooks wishlist and upon placing a recent order, I decided to add it to my cart. I had been wanting to read Christian books about parenting that align with the Bible and I’m thankful that I found that in Grace Based Discipline. With honesty and humor, Karis shares with readers her own experiences in parenting and ways she and her husband have implemented the book’s concepts in their home. I enjoyed reading about this because it gave me some practical ideas to try with my children.

The ideas in Grace Based Discipline originated with the author’s parents who were looking for a theology of parenting that was free of fear, sin management, and spiritual image control (pg. 7). This really resonated with me because my heart has been shifting in how I view myself as a parent/discipler. I currently view my primary function in those role as pointing others to Jesus. This notion reminded me that my job is to plant and water and that if there is any growth, it comes from God alone (1 Corinthians 3:6, Philippians 2:13) through the power of the Holy Spirit.

My favorite aspect of the book is the chapter dedicated to understanding God’s word rightly. To help readers do this, Karis introduced the Three Ps on page 72: “A grace-based home sets the expectation of living by God’s standards so we can fully experience the joy that living within God’s will brings. We want to avoid the pitfall of making things moral or spiritual issues when they’re not. So as we begin the process of setting clear boundaries and expectations, we want to be sure to put the house rules, safety rules, and moral/biblical rules in the correct categories. The best safeguard is what I call the ‘Three Ps.’ As we read the Bible, even if it’s just a small morsel, we should ask: ‘Is this a precept?’ ‘What principles should I apply to myself and my family? ‘Do either of my answers need to change in light of the current biblical precedent?’” That chapter concluded with the sad and startling story of a family Karis and her siblings grew up with. The parents in that family wrongly emphasized the encounter Jesus had with the rich young ruler and enforced that portion of Scripture as their family’s way of life. It was so wild and sad to read about but I was grateful for the reminder that the way we parent our children shapes their view of God.

On page 162, Karis listed various discipline tactics parents can use some of which include, teaching, distracting, and do-overs (pg. 162). She included commentary about each tactic mentioned which was helpful but what really blessed me was the question she encouraged parents to ask themselves: "Is this the way God parents me? If you're still unsure how to respond to your kids' defiance, ask, 'How does God respond to me?' If you're still unclear about what do to about your kids' behavior, ask, 'How does God discipline me? Here's the thing: our homes are laboratories for the gospel. How we parent, and how we discipline, will be evidence that will either support or disprove whether the gospel is the good news we all claim."

One aspect of the book that intrigued me was its gracious treatment of spanking. I've quickly grown weary of Christian parenting resources that have treated spanking as if it were a matter of a first importance (1 Corinthians 15:3) and the only biblical option for discipline despite the term “spanking” and the modern employment of it being absent from the pages of Scripture. I was especially grateful for Appendix B in the back of the book which Karis used to offer a balanced approach to this disciplinary option.

Overall, I really enjoyed Grace Based Discipline and found it to be refreshing and freeing. I look forward to implementing its suggestions in my own parenting and hope to read more from Karis Kimmel Murray in the future.
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AMAZING BOOK

AN AMAZING BOOK! I love how this author incorporates her own, real stories, which adds humor to (what can be) a dry subject. I love how she uses scripture to explain discipline and how she doesnt shy away from hard subjects like spankings

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