Midlife: A Philosophical Guide
Midlife: A Philosophical Guide book cover

Midlife: A Philosophical Guide

Hardcover – October 3, 2017

Price
$22.95
Format
Hardcover
Pages
200
Publisher
Princeton University Press
Publication Date
ISBN-13
978-0691173931
Dimensions
5.2 x 0.9 x 8.1 inches
Weight
12 ounces

Description

" Midlife has a self-soothing quality. . . . [It] teaches a lesson about midlife: it’s sometimes best to go with the flow." ---Joshua Rothman, New Yorker "Mr. Setiya hopes to lift sufferers out of this dip [of midlife] and help them flourish by conveying the insights of modern philosophy. . . . For a philosophy professor, [he] can be refreshingly unstuffy. He doesn't see a flashy sports car as a midlife crisis-mobile, that trite substitute for lost youth and virility. No, he sees it as an opportunity to change from goal-oriented, utilitarian thinking to a life-affirming experience of being in the moment." ---Eric Felten, Wall Street Journal "Setiya serves as an engaging companion for those in the throes of the dreaded midlife crisis, as he brings the wisdom of the ages to bear on the contemporary malaise. A self-help book with a strong--but not heavy-handed--philosophical foundation." ― Kirkus "[Setiya’s] book is a reminder that philosophy, at its best, can be both wise and humane." ---Anil Gomes, Times Literary Supplement "Setiya is a clear-thinking, plain-speaking companion who doesn't take himself too seriously." ---Jeremy Clarke, Literary Review "A model for how to write philosophy clearly and non-technically without lapsing into banality or truism. . . . Warm, lucid and sane." ---Joe Moran, Times Higher Education "A concise, entertaining and humane guide through life's most difficult territory." ---Simon Ings, The Spectator "A delightful amalgam of self-help and intellectual inquiry." ― The Economist "Setiya’s elegant little volume is a 'philosophical guide' to what he calls the 'existential questions of midlife'." ---Jonathan Derbyshire, Financial Times "An accessible exploration of what history’s great thinkers have had to say on the subject [of midlife]." ---Sarah Murdoch, Toronto Star "There’s an uplifting message here for everyone. If you’re in midlife, rest assured you wouldn’t really enjoy being young again. If you’re young, stop worrying about future regret, since even the best choices necessitate loss. And if you’re old? Be glad all those panic-inducing choices are behind you." ---Oliver Burkeman, The Guardian "This is a wonderfully rich and illuminating examination of the turmoil of midlife." ---PD Smith, The Guardian "Setiya rediscovers very old wisdom here. It might help with a midlife crisis. But really, he is talking about the meaning of life. It is good that analytic philosophy is so much less scared of that topic than it used to be. I very much hope that Setiya’s valuable and accessible book might help it to be less afraid also of the stages on life’s way." ---Christopher Hamilton, Mind "To me the book has succeeded in making a real difference." ---Thomas Pölzler, Ethical Perspectives "Written with charming simplicity and wry humor, Midlife is a philosophically rich source of what might be called ‘the higher life hacks'―reflective ways of dissolving the sense of emptiness and regret that tends to hit each of us with the onset of middle age. A work of disarming wisdom." ―Jim Holt, author of Why Does the World Exist? "As someone who has suffered from a midlife crisis since the age of seven, I found Kieran Setiya's Midlife: A Philosophical Guide both instructive and consoling. If it fails to slim the waistline or stave off death, it nevertheless proves, like a trusted spouse or pet, a very companionable guide on the way to the void. It may even make you, as it did me, see the virtue of being forty-two." ―Joshua Ferris, author of To Rise Again at a Decent Hour "Kieran Setiya's new book is an elegant application of philosophy to the midlife crisis. Whatever your preoccupations on the subject, you will find strategies here important to your peace of mind. Written with urgency and wit, the book has a great mix of philosophy, personal narrative, and practical wisdom. Highly recommended." ―Jennifer Michael Hecht, author of Doubt: A History "In this engaging and insightful book, Kieran Setiya uses the resources of philosophy to illuminate and help allay some familiar forms of anxiety and distress that afflict people just when they are in the prime of their lives." ―Samuel Scheffler, author of Death and the Afterlife "In this engaging and accessible book, Kieran Setiya explores questions about what we live for, what it makes sense to regret in the one life we each have, and how to think about the end of it all, and he does so in writing that is at once literary, intimate, and philosophically rigorous." ―Richard Moran, Harvard University "Kieran Setiya's Midlife is a sort of cognitive cleanser laying bare the issues we all face at midlife and beyond. Invoking philosophers from Mill to Schopenhauer, the book offers wise and lucid insights on our inevitable regrets, fear of death, and need for enjoyment as well as meaning. It’s succinct, so savor it slowly." ―John Allen Paulos, author of Innumeracy and A Numerate Life " Midlife is Intelligent, insightful, creative, and enjoyable. I wish I could have had a copy of this book ten or twenty years ago!" ―Troy Jollimore, author of Love's Vision "Written with charming simplicity and wry humor, Midlife is a philosophically rich source of what might be called 'the higher life hacks'--reflective ways of dissolving the sense of emptiness and regret that tends to hit each of us with the onset of middle age. A work of disarming wisdom." --Jim Holt, author of Why Does the World Exist? "As someone who has suffered from a midlife crisis since the age of seven, I found Kieran Setiya's Midlife: A Philosophical Guide both instructive and consoling. If it fails to slim the waistline or stave off death, it nevertheless proves, like a trusted spouse or pet, a very companionable guide on the way to the void. It may even make you, as it did me, see the virtue of being forty-two." --Joshua Ferris, author of To Rise Again at a Decent Hour "Kieran Setiya's new book is an elegant application of philosophy to the midlife crisis. Whatever your preoccupations on the subject, you will find strategies here important to your peace of mind. Written with urgency and wit, the book has a great mix of philosophy, personal narrative, and practical wisdom. Highly recommended." --Jennifer Michael Hecht, author of Doubt: A History "In this engaging and insightful book, Kieran Setiya uses the resources of philosophy to illuminate and help allay some familiar forms of anxiety and distress that afflict people just when they are in the prime of their lives." --Samuel Scheffler, author of Death and the Afterlife "In this engaging and accessible book, Kieran Setiya explores questions about what we live for, what it makes sense to regret in the one life we each have, and how to think about the end of it all, and he does so in writing that is at once literary, intimate, and philosophically rigorous." --Richard Moran, Harvard University "Kieran Setiya's Midlife is a sort of cognitive cleanser laying bare the issues we all face at midlife and beyond. Invoking philosophers from Mill to Schopenhauer, the book offers wise and lucid insights on our inevitable regrets, fear of death, and need for enjoyment as well as meaning. It's succinct, so savor it slowly." --John Allen Paulos, author of Innumeracy and A Numerate Life " Midlife is Intelligent, insightful, creative, and enjoyable. I wish I could have had a copy of this book ten or twenty years ago!" --Troy Jollimore, author of Love's Vision Kieran Setiya is professor of philosophy at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. He is the author of Reasons without Rationalism (Princeton) and Knowing Right from Wrong . He lives in Brookline, Massachusetts, with his wife and son. Read more

Features & Highlights

  • Philosophical wisdom and practical advice for overcoming the problems of middle age
  • How can you reconcile yourself with the lives you will never lead, with possibilities foreclosed, and with nostalgia for lost youth? How can you accept the failings of the past, the sense of futility in the tasks that consume the present, and the prospect of death that blights the future? In this self-help book with a difference, Kieran Setiya confronts the inevitable challenges of adulthood and middle age, showing how philosophy can help you thrive.You will learn why missing out might be a good thing, how options are overrated, and when you should be glad you made a mistake. You will be introduced to philosophical consolations for mortality. And you will learn what it would mean to live in the present, how it could solve your midlife crisis, and why meditation helps.Ranging from Aristotle, Schopenhauer, and John Stuart Mill to Virginia Woolf and Simone de Beauvoir, as well as drawing on Setiya’s own experience,
  • Midlife
  • combines imaginative ideas, surprising insights, and practical advice. Writing with wisdom and wit, Setiya makes a wry but passionate case for philosophy as a guide to life.

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A lucid discussion that's not just for midlifers.

Setiya is a compelling guide in this book, at once witty and companionable while being serious and incisive. He writes with a calmly straightforward honesty that is bracing. His intellectual acumen in dealing with philosophers old and new make this, in some senses, an "easy" read. I had to force myself to stick to only one chapter per day so that I could think through the questions they raised. I am long past my midlife years, but I found this book exceptionally relevant, chapter after chapter, for the surprisingly similar conflicts and anxieties of retirement. In fact, I suspect I find this book more valuable now than I would have during midlife, when the whirl of activity made reflection more difficult. Having trouble figuring out who you are or what you ought to do now that your professional tasks have ended? This philosophical guide can help, as it surely does for anyone in midlife.
45 people found this helpful
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Tough read and interesting. But alone it may not suffice to resolve midlife malaise.

I am glad I read this. I warn this book requires a fair amount of logical reasoning skill. I'm a degreed engineer who has always loved the logic associated with computer programing and I found this book so difficult to casually read, I had to stop half way and start over. Having trouble the second time, I decided I needed to take notes. Spoiler: the conclusion chapter summarizes the 11 points and suggestions.

I bought the book because of a prolonged midlife malaise. It is like a wave -- up and down. The philosophy, history lessons and logic in this book are quite interesting. But are they helpful? I'm not so sure. Even the author admits he is still struggling. I suspect if we had the ideas in this book and then applied some CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) exercises we would be better off. The two together better than CBT alone? I think so. With this book I now have a better idea of what is bugging me (chapter 6 is my issue). But I don't really feel like I got the solution from this book. Will shifting my focus form the telic to the atelic pull me out of my 7 year long funk and keep me out? I suspect I'll need to "untwist my thinking" more (reference to David Burns, author of Feeling Good, Feeling Good Handbook and other books).

Others might get more help. If you are about to do something big in your life to resolve midlife dissatisfaction, read this first. Lucky for me I procrastinate enough that I didn't take any action yet.

But I am grateful the author wrote it -- I just don't see much out there on this issue. And thanks for analysis of the idea in the beginning -- "is a midlife crisis really a phenomena"?

UPDATE: I upgraded my rating. Months and months later my thoughts keep coming back to this book where the author organizes the common thoughts we have, one chapter each. Few other books I've read cause me to want to go back to them so much.
33 people found this helpful
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Don't waste the precious time you DO have left reading this book.

This book was written by a professional philosopher. That in itself should serve as a warning if you are the least bit familiar with philosophy and the "philosophical approach". I am. I studied philosophy for 6 years and wish I had studied anything else, perhaps accounting. This book does not approach the so called midlife crisis with any practicality or insightfulness. Its pretentious rumination totally avoids and/or obfuscates the central issues of what people describe as a midlife crisis. You would be better off visiting that otherwise better off avoided section of your bookstore - the self-help section. That's how bad and useless this book is. Self-doubt, regrets, loss of youth, diminishing robustness, boredom, ennui, fear of death or a meaningless life are NOT addressed here at least in any cogent manner. However, by throwing this book on the give-away pile I feel I have done something meaningful and decluttered my bookshelves a bit as well. The frustration this book aroused coupled with that small rebellious action actually helped me more than reading the book. Rejecting drivel makes one feel alive and life more purposeful.
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So many self-help books treat you like a child or a loser who can't think for ...

So many self-help books treat you like a child or a loser who can't think for his- or herself. Not Setiya's--you, his reader, are treated as an adult, not only someone who needs help, but someone who might enjoy thinking about who they are and why they need help. Add a good dose of the wisdom of the ages, and I'm sold. Love this book.
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but great philosophical ideas are also infectious

Reading this book may have induced a bit of a midlife crisis in me, but it also helped me think about what I was going through.

The ultimate aim of philosophy is truth, but great philosophical ideas are also infectious, and this book is full of great ideas. Especially the ideas in chapter 6, about living in the present: I still think about them, about whether they are right, frequently.
17 people found this helpful
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Only for the most erudite. It's about the author, not you.

I'm a fairly erudite person. I'm using the word erudite to reinforce the fact. I have an advanced degree, older, studied philosophy, have a keen interest in the subject matter and experienced my fair share of the old ennui. There I go again, showing off. Using big words you might think my message is more about me than a message for you. That's exactly the feeling I got reading Midlife by Satiya. I couldn't get through chapter two. If there are gems in this book, well I guess the author did care enough, or have a good enough editor, to get me to them. C'est la vie. Don't waste your money, and more importantly don't waste your time and brain power to indulge the author's "see, I'm a philosopher, I know stuff and think about it!"
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Midpoint is wherever we are

Midlife can be a depressing period of one’s life, full of regrets when one looks back, and death in front. Existentialist philosopher Setiya takes us through a philosophical journey through this difficult period and brings to our field of vision joy in place of regrets, courage and hope instead of fear. Snipping excerpts from philosophers such as Aristotle, John Stuart Mill, Simone de Beauvoir, and Derek Parfit, as well as writers such as Virginia Woolf, and William Wordsworth, Setiya shows what it is that causes us discomfort at this stage of life – our sense of attachment. Attachment is a necessity as well as a liability. Love springs from attachment, but so does regret. Understanding how we deal with it is a major factor in finding contentment in our existential being.

Contrary to another reviewer's comments, Setiya does not turn to Buddhism, not in the way of embracing its precepts, but to distinguish Buddhism's version of mindfulness which involves accepting ourselves as 'non-selves', and to persuade us to his (Setiya's) version of mindfulness which involves accepting the incompleteness of life.
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Five Stars

Phiosophy as relevant to real life problems. Well-written and well thought out.
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Everyone should read this book.

Everyone should read this book.
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Still a good read for retirees

Good, but not as good as I had come to believe from the reviews.
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