Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids: Why Being a Great Parent Is Less Work and More Fun Than You Think
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Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids: Why Being a Great Parent Is Less Work and More Fun Than You Think

Hardcover – April 12, 2011

Price
$25.80
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Hardcover
Pages
240
Publisher
Basic Books
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ISBN-13
978-0465018673
Dimensions
6.25 x 1.25 x 9.5 inches
Weight
15.2 ounces

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“Economist Brian Caplan: Kids can be cheaper than you think ...so maybe you want more of them than you think you want. He makes the case for this controversial proposition at length in his fascinating and well-argued new book Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids: Why Being a Great Parent is Less Work and More Fun Than You Think. ” Fabio Rojas, OrgTheory.net, Associate Professor of Sociology at Indiana University “ Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids is a new book by economist and blogger Bryan Caplan. It makes a simple argument of extreme importance: you should probably have more children. Though this book is written by an economist, it’s not another cute-o-nomics pop text. It’s a serious book about family planning that’s based on his reading of child development, psychology, genetics, economics, and other fields. It’s about one of life’s most important decisions, andxa0this is what social scientists should be thinking about.” Kirkus Reviews “[T]he author’s mission is noble—encouraging individuals to parent two or more children.” Steven Pinker, Harvard College Professor of Psychology, Harvard University, and author of How the Mind Works and The Blank Slate “ Mr. Caplan, who has already been dubbed the ‘Un-Tiger Mom,’ writes, ‘While healthy, smart, happy, successful, virtuous parents tend to have matching offspring, the reason is largely nature, not nurture.’. . . xa0His argument may be refreshing in an era of competitive preschool admissions and hyperactive extracurricular schedules.” Chattanooga Times Free Press “In a nutshell, Caplan believes that parents put too much pressure on themselves to raise perfect children, when there is very little evidence that hyper-parenting does much good and plenty of evidence that it does harm by stressing parents out. . . . [M]ost kids just need a calm house with parents who love them, he says.xa0 Deep down, most of us know that. And once you release yourself from the drudgery of perfect parenting, your kids will relax and probably flourish, too.” National Review “Even if Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids won’t actually convince people to have more kids, it serves as both a brief and remarkably well-written introduction to genetic research, and a guide book for easier parenting.xa0 The Tiger Mothers of the world would be well served by reading it.” Steve Silver, movie critic for The American Conservative Tyler Cowen, Holbert C. Harris Professor of Economics, George Mason University “This is one of the best books on parenting, ever.xa0 It will bring life into the world, knowledge to your mind, and joy into your heart.” Judith Rich Harris, author of The Nurture Assumption and No Two Alike “A lively, witty, thoroughly engrossing book. Bryan Caplan looks at parenting from the viewpoint of an economist, as well as a father. His conclusions may surprise you but he has the data to back them up.” Robert Plomin, Medical Research Council Research Professor at the Institute of Psychiatry “I loved this book. Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids should be required reading for parents—as it will be for my children, who are now having their own kids and getting caught up in the more-work, less-fun traps of parenting covered here. And as a geneticist, I can report that Bryan Caplan has the facts right. Even better, he interprets those facts in a way that will change our view of parenting.” Reason “[A] delightful book, breezy in prose style, but reasonably rigorous in its handling of the nature-nurture statistics.” Washington Times “Bryan Caplan’s book Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids: Why Being a Great Parent Is Less Work and More Fun Than You Think stands as a bridge across an economic and psychological gap. xa0This isn’t your average parenting book spouting psychologist-laden babble about the inner workings of the human psyche, inherent selfishness and bearing children. xa0Rather, Mr. Caplan… hopes to persuade interested parties that it’s not only better to have children in the first place, but to have lots, or at least more than the number you originally were planning to have.” The Atlantic , Business Channel “A direct blow to Tiger Moms around the world… The Caplan Theory is a bit like the Ferber method writ large: If you stop worrying and let the kid be for now, everybody will be happier tomorrow.” “Original, lively, well-researched, and wise, this book could change your life.” Lenore Skenazy, author of the book and blog, Free-Range Kids “Imagine this: Parenting doesn’t HAVE to be a chore. Your kids are safer than you think, smarter than you think and besides—you have less influence than you think! So sit back, relax, and read this book with your newfound free time. The sanity you save may be your own.” Tim Harford, author of The Undercover Economist and Adapt “Provocative, fascinating, and utterly original, Bryan Caplan’s book overturns the conventional wisdom about why parenting matters.” Wall Street Journal “Despite its wickedly subversive premise, Mr. Caplan's book is cheery and intellectually honest. . . . And the bedrock of his argument is solid: Modern parenting is insane. Children do not need most of what we buy them. So, yes, the “price” of children is artificially high. . . . The best argument for children isn't that they will make you happy or your life fun but that parenthood provides purpose for a well-lived life.” Motoko Rich , New York Times Bryan Caplan is a Professor of Economics at George Mason University and blogger at EconLog, one of the Wall Street Journal's Top 25 Economics Blogs. He lives in Oakton, Virginia, with his wife and their three children.

Features & Highlights

  • We've needlessly turned parenting into an unpleasant chore. Parents invest more time and money in their kids than ever, but the shocking lesson of twin and adoption research is that upbringing is much less important than genetics in the long run. These revelations have surprising implications for how we parent and how we spend time with our kids. The big lesson: Mold your kids less and enjoy your life more. Your kids will still turn out fine.Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids is a book of practical big ideas. How can parents be happier? What can they change--and what do they need to just accept? Which of their worries can parents safely forget? Above all, what is the right number of kids for you to have? You'll never see kids or parenthood the same way again.

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Just Not Very Compelling

The title pretty much says it all here. Mr. Caplan wants to convince us that middle class Americans should be willing to have more children. He believes that most people choose not to have as many children as they actually want, and that they make this choice for the wrong reasons. By piling on the research (mainly twin studies--lots of twin studies) and personal anecdotes (he has three children--one set of twins), he makes a lot of good points but, overall, isn't particularly convincing.

I am lucky. I have exactly the family I hoped for: two children--a boy and a girl. I didn't have any desire or expectation to be convinced to have more children, and I wasn't. The main reason I wanted to read this is that I agree wholeheartedly with one of his main arguments; namely, that American middle class parents make their lives much harder than they have to be. They worry too much and do too much (and force their children to do too much). Mr. Caplan presents some nice research about the difference in parenting between the 1950's and today that strongly supports the idea that parents could back off a bit without doing any damage to their children. For this alone, I was glad I read the book.

As for the rest of it, I could take it or leave it. There's a lot of nice data but it's not really compelling. Part of the problem is that it's just not a very well written book. It's very repetitive, and concludes with a series of ridiculously stilted, fictitious dialogues. And, as Mr. Caplan notes, the target audience here is very narrow: middle class, first world parents. His conclusions are meaningless for the other 99% of the world. I had hoped for more.
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A Convincing Case For Having More Kids

Are kids really as expensive as we may make them out to be? Well, that depends, but in "Selfish Reasons To Have More Kids", Bryan Caplan's central argument is that kids cost the average person less than they think. For the most part, his argument is quite convincing.

While "Selfish Reasons To Have More Kids" is a book worth reading, it's not a book without flaws. I didn't find Caplan's arguments in support of genetic engineering and cloning to be very convincing. Just because we have the technology to do something doesn't mean we ought to. Caplan fails to consider the possibility that there may be devastating unintended consequences from such technology that we cannot predict.
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Read this before you become a parent!

My husband bought this book for me when we decided to start trying to conceive, and I'm glad he did. Admittedly, we are both fans of Marginal Revolution and already agree with many aspects of Caplan's personal philosophy, so I was predisposed to like the book. We currently plan to have two children, but after reading the book, I wouldn't be surprised if we ended up with three instead.

Caplan does an excellent job of explaining behavioral genetics and twin/adoption studies with lay terminology. Reviewers who have given the book negative reviews appear to have either not read the book at all or to have taken his recommendations entirely out of context. Nowhere in the book does Caplan advocate raising your children on fast food and television. Instead, he suggests that a little bit of fast food is preferable to being stressed out. This advice is beneficial to you and to your children, who will have happy memories of their childhood rather than memories of you losing your temper. Caplan even cites research in support of this: when children are asked about their wishes, they state that they wish their parents were less stressed out. In essence, Caplan suggests that we worry too much about how our children will turn out, and that, in the long run, our kids will resemble us because of the genes we passed on rather than our monumental parenting efforts. If we provide a "good enough" environment (this is pretty easy in most First World countries, as Caplan states), our kids will be able to reach their full potential, whatever that may be. This does not indicate that parents don't matter, as other reviewers have suggested: we still have the responsibility for providing the good enough environment. Our love matters, and we still need to create happy memories with our children. But we don't need to go overboard.

I'm familiar with the field of behavioral genetics and worked on twin and adoption studies for several years, so I have entered data for and read the final results of many of the studies that Caplan summarizes. He represents them accurately. Indeed, there is even a section where he admits that there are flaws in this research and that future studies may reveal that genetic influences are not quite as strong as the extant research suggests. However, I think there is ample evidence to support his basic premise, which is that modern parents need not exert *quite* so much effort trying to put their kids on the "right" path. As Caplan states in the book, if you're happy with how you and your spouse turned out, your kids are probably going to be fine.
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This book has a good argument if you are unsure about having children

This book has a good argument if you are unsure about having children, taking into consideration various things. But the author is definitely pro having children as supposed to not having them. I am no less convince that I should or shouldn't. I recommend it.
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Have more fun raising your children. Worry less.

Excellent review of twin studies concluding that parent can enjoy there children more, sweat less (at least as far as "baby Einstein" and other enhancement programs go).