The Art of Forgiving
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The Art of Forgiving

Paperback – August 12, 1997

Price
$16.00
Format
Paperback
Pages
192
Publisher
Ballantine Books
Publication Date
ISBN-13
978-0345413444
Dimensions
5.33 x 0.52 x 8.21 inches
Weight
6.2 ounces

Description

When a heinous act is committed, sometimes one wonders if forgiveness is even possible. Lewis B. Smedes would certainly advise it. "When we forgive," he says, "we set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner we set free is us." In an easy-to-read yet astute analysis of the meaning and value of forgiveness, Smedes teaches the reader that more than anything, forgiveness is a way of healing. He takes as his model the Judeo-Christian God and outlines the many subtleties involved in forgiveness, such as distinguishing anger from hate, and noting that we only forgive those we blame (including ourselves). Forgetting may be more difficult, but at least The Art of Forgiving can help us along the path toward release and healing. From the Inside Flap Smedes writes about forgiveness like no one has ever written about it before. There is no better book in the English language about this subject, which, if properly mastered, can change the face of human relationships."xa0xa0 --Neil Clark Warrenxa0xa0xa0xa0xa0xa0xa0xa0xa0xa0xa0xa0xa0xa0Author of The Triumphant Marriage and Make Anger Your Ally If you are ready to make peace with those who have hurt or betrayed you, there can be no finer road map than this thoroughly practical book. Lewis Smedes brings true forgiveness, "Gods own gift," within the capacity of every wounded person, even in circumstances when only hate seems possible. With inspiring words, he leads you through the three stages of forgiveness and helps you understand:Why we forgive (often the person who benefits most is the forgiver) What we do when we forgive (perhaps not what we expect) & "Lewis Smedes writes about forgiveness like no one has ever written about it before. There is no better book in the English language about this subject, which, if properly mastered, can change the face of human relationships." --Neil Clark Warren Author of The Triumphant Marriage and Make Anger Your Ally If you are ready to make peace with those who have hurt or betrayed you, there can be no finer road map than this thoroughly practical book. Lewis Smedes brings true forgiveness, "Gods own gift," within the capacity of every wounded person, even in circumstances when only hate seems possible. With inspiring words, he leads you through the three stages of forgiveness and helps you understand: Why we forgive (often the person who benefits most is the forgiver) What we do when we forgive (perhaps not what we expect) Whom we forgive (only those who directly wrong us)How we forgive (we start by owning our pain) Using many dramatic examples drawn from life, this wise author illuminates, step by step, the healing path to peace and freedom. "Altogether a wonderfully wise and enabling book, one of Smedes's very best. The Art of Forgiving is itself a work of art. Throughout my reading I found myself exclaiming, 'That never occurred to me, but yes, that's right!' I felt as if I were being led by an extraordinarily lucid and perceptive guide on a tour through the land of forgiveness." --Nicholas Woltersdorff Professor of Philosophical Theology The Divinity School, Yale University Lewis B. Smedes , former professor of theology and ethics at Fuller Theological Seminary, is the author of numerous books, including Forgive and Forget and How Can It Be All Right When Everything Is All Wrong? Read more

Features & Highlights

  • "Lewis Smedes writes about forgiveness like no one has ever written about it before. There is no better book in the English language about this subject, which, if properly mastered, can change the face of human relationships."   --Neil Clark Warren              Author of
  • The Triumphant Marriage
  • and
  • Make Anger Your Ally
  • If you are ready to make peace with those who have hurt or betrayed you, there can be no finer road map than this thoroughly practical book. Lewis Smedes brings true forgiveness, "Gods own gift," within the capacity of every wounded person, even in circumstances when only hate seems possible. With inspiring words, he leads you through the three stages of forgiveness and helps you understand:Why we forgive (often the person who benefits most is the forgiver) What we do when we forgive (perhaps not what we expect) Whom we forgive (only those who directly wrong us)How we forgive (we start by owning our pain)  Using many dramatic examples drawn from life, this wise author illuminates, step by step, the healing path to peace and freedom.  "Altogether a wonderfully wise and enabling book, one of Smedes's very best.
  • The Art of Forgiving
  • is itself a work of art. Throughout my reading I found myself exclaiming, 'That never occurred to me, but yes, that's right!' I felt as if I were being led by an extraordinarily lucid and perceptive guide on a tour through the land of forgiveness."    --Nicholas Woltersdorff   Professor of Philosophical Theology  The Divinity School, Yale University

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A Masterpiece!

For people who have been wronged and struggle with negative, consuming emotions, this title is the one to read. Smedes describes in great detail what it means to forgive, and that the benefit is not to the one forgiven, but to the one forgiving. His words here are like a long, cool drink of water to a soul parched from hatred, bitterness and animosity. There is great healing power in forgiveness, and Smedes harnesses that power in this book as few other authors have done.
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Quite readable

As a therapist I have found this accessable and readable for my clients, extends what I can offer in therapy.
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Perspective changing

I used this book as a guide to a study/book group. It was transformative for many of the members of the group, and left us all believing that forgiveness is not a hard as we'd believe it needed to be, and is preferable, self-caring, and can be done with authenticity and integrity, and not after a long time has passed.
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What Real Forgiveness Really Is

Part of our premarital counseling involved reading "Art of Forgiving" by Lewis B. Smedes.

Cuts through me-centered pop-psychology hogwash, and Smedes talks about real forgiveness. Who can forgive who about what. What "I'm sorry" needs to genuinely be about in order for it, and the related forgiveness, to be true.

I fully recommend "Art of Forgiving" by Lewis B. Smedes.

Anthony Trendl
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