The Man Who Left
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The Man Who Left

Paperback – April 16, 2012

Price
$15.99
Format
Paperback
Pages
306
Publisher
CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform
Publication Date
ISBN-13
978-1475049404
Dimensions
5.24 x 0.69 x 7.99 inches
Weight
12.5 ounces

Description

Theresa Weir is skilled at breaking my heart with her engaging, authentic prose. The Man Who Left can be read as a stand alone, but it can easily be considered a companion memoir to her critically acclaimed The Orchard. An honest and emotional account of Alzheimer's and absence that I highly recommend.xa0~ Book End Babes ~~~ Best of 2012 ~~ L.K. Rigel Highly recommended: "This book, as everyone points out, is a companion piece to "The Orchard," a memoir about Theresa's marriage. I loved that book and thought it was the best thing I read in 2011. So I was quick to pick up this book which is about the author's earlier life. Again, I found it mesmerizing . I am fascinated by getting behind the doors of America's households and Theresa allows us in to her teenage life here (also, her later life, helping out her elderly father who abandoned the family.)" Paul LaRosa, author of Leaving Story Avenue What readers are saying: "Even better than THE ORCHARD!" NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING AUTHOR (2013) USA TODAY BESTSELLING AUTHOR BARNES & NOBEL BESTSELLING AUTHOR AMAZON.COM BESTSELLING AUTHOR ~~~Theresa Weir is an award-winning, New York Times bestselling author of twenty-three books and numerous short stories that have spanned the genres of suspense, mystery, thriller, romantic suspense, paranormal, and memoir. Her titles have been printed in both hardcover and paperback and translated into twenty languages. Her memoir, The Orchard, was a 2011 Oprah Magazine Fall Pick, Number Two on the Indie Next list, a featured B+ review in Entertainment Weekly, and a Librarians' Best Books of 2011. Going back to 1988, Weir's debut title was the cult phenomenon AMAZON LILY, initially published by Pocket Books and later reissued by Bantam Books. Writing as Theresa Weir she won a RITA for romantic suspense (COOL SHADE), and a year later the Daphne du Maurier for paranormal romance (BAD KARMA). In her more recent Anne Frasier career, her thriller and suspense titles hit the USA Today list (HUSH, SLEEP TIGHT, PLAY DEAD) and were featured in Mystery Guild, Literary Guild, and Book of the Month Club. HUSH was both a RITA and Daphne du Maurier finalist. Well-known in the mystery community, she served as hardcover judge for the Thriller presented by International Thriller Writers, and was guest of honor at the Diversicon 16 mystery/science fiction conference held in Minneapolis in 2008.

Features & Highlights

  • THE MAN WHO LEFT is about the importance of fathers. It's about the men who leave, and the men who stay. It's a familiar story. Father leaves his wife and children and never looks back. Theresa Weir was five when her father left his family for a better life with a wealthy socialite. Many years passed with only occasional and grudging contact by Theresa's father. When Theresa married into a successful farm family, her father resurfaced, but she couldn't help but be suspicious of his awkward visits. Years later, when the aging socialite dies and Theresa's father is diagnosed with Alzheimer's, people expect Theresa to move to Florida to care for him. A daughter's duty. This is Theresa's personal story of a strained and painful father/daughter relationship. What does a daughter owe the father who abandoned her? From the editor: THE MAN WHO LEFT could be considered a companion to the stunning memoir THE ORCHARD. But where THE ORCHARD is a dark fairy tale, THE MAN WHO LEFT is pure Middle American gothic, told in Theresa Weir's unadorned yet richly powerful and emotionally resonant style. A story about the burdens of remembering and the costs of forgetting, THE MAN WHO LEFT poignantly chronicles the emotional consequences of betrayal and abandonment by those who are supposed to love us the most. ~~~ From the book: I doubt I’ll ever forgive him. It’s not in me to forgive him, but my own sense of humanity won’t let me ignore him and his plight. This would be easier if he were a stranger. Or, if I loved him. If he were a stranger, I could help him without having to listen to stories that pierce my heart, stories of a fabulous life that didn’t include his children. If I loved him, I would swoop him up and carry him off to live with me. Through the wall, I hear him shift in his bed, and I hear the jingle of a dog collar, and I imagine the two Dalmatians curled beside him in the king-sized bed. The walls are pale blue, covered in framed Irene Spencer prints; soft images of mothers cuddling babies. Long white dressers with gold trim are strewn with Eve’s ornate perfume bottles and tiered glass shelves of jewelry. A floral spread covers my father in oblivion, his shape undefined and fragile. He doesn’t know it, but he is the man who broke us. ~~~ PRAISE FOR THE ORCHARD An Oprah Magazine Fall Pick Featured Review in Entertainment Weekly Number Two on October Indie Next List BJ's Book Club Spotlight LIbrarians' Best Books of 2011Maclean's Top Books of 2011 On Point (NPR) Best Books of 2011 Abrams Best of 2011 Publishers Lunch (Publishers Weekly) Favorite Books of 2011Best Nonfiction of 2011 One Book, One Community Read Target Book Club Pick, September 2012

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An emotional read.....

This book, as everyone points out, is a companion piece to "The Orchard," a memoir about Theresa's marriage. I loved that book and thought it was the best thing I read in 2011. So I was quick to pick up this book which is about the author's earlier life. Again, I found it mesmerizing. I am fascinated by getting behind the doors of America's households and Theresa allows us in to her teenage life here (also, her later life, helping out her elderly father who abandoned the family.)

She writes with sympathy and understand about her father, a man she could easily despise for the way he ruined her early life but it's clear she feels a lot of the blame for him leaving has to do with her absolutely bonkers mother. When the young Theresa suggests her mother get medication to control her mental health, she receives the beating of her life. These days, the teachers at school would have removed her from that home but, then, they merely asked if she was doing okay.

She was not but somehow she made it through to write a slew of books and her personal stories. I'm a fan and her style of writing is exactly what I look for. Highly recommended.
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Compulsive Reader

The Man Who Left was an interesting read, dealing with the aftermath of growing up in a broken home. The author opens with a Florida visit to her aging father who has advancing alzheimers. Her father had deserted the family for the comforts of living an affluent lifestyle with a much older woman when the author was a child. The story moves from the present day visit when the father usually doesn't even remember his daughter's name or that she's his daughter to the author's chaotic childhood growing up with her emotionally unstable mother. The mother was obsessed with getting the father back and later with just getting back at him --- she was increasingly unstable and abusive to her children with occasional moments of affection. I was especially touched by the flashbacks of the little girl trying to make sense of adult choices and reactions/behaviors. Then as an adolescent, her life was painful both emotionally and physically, yet she was determined to not be broken by her mother and stepfather, both of whom were fractured emotionally and should never have been responsible for raising kids. The author is a survivor in spite of the pain caused by the adults in her childhood. While her story is at times painful to read, there are moments of humor that made me smile. In the end the father never answered the questions about why he left and if he even cared about her and her brothers, but occasional flashes from his past that broke though his dementia did give the author brief glimpses into this man who left. The adults in this memoir are greatly flawed, but the child's insights make this a good read. I'm glad I downloaded this to my Kindle.
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Weir is a good writer but the content never hooked me

* I received a complimentary copy of this book through a First Reads Goodreads giveaway. * I would rate this book somewhere between 3 and 4 stars.

The Man Who Left is a companion book to The Orchard, Theresa Weir's highly acclaimed first memoir. Theresa Weir is a good writer - the book reads like a fictional story but unfortunately for me, I felt that the content wasn't particularly engaging. I had a difficult time picking it up night after night because it never really hooked me.

At the end of the day, it was an ok read for me.
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