They Left Us Everything: A Memoir
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They Left Us Everything: A Memoir

Hardcover – July 26, 2016

Price
$6.67
Format
Hardcover
Pages
288
Publisher
G.P. Putnam's Sons
Publication Date
ISBN-13
978-0399184093
Dimensions
5.7 x 0.96 x 8.5 inches
Weight
14.6 ounces

Description

Praise for They Left Us Everything “Anyone who has grieved at the death of an aging parent after months of being a dedicated caregiver will relate to this poignant memoir written from the heart. . . . It's a candid, honest look at a relevant topic.”— The Columbus Dispatch “ They Left Us Everything will give you goosebumps.xa0 It’s the rare baby boomer [who] won’t see herself inside Johnson’s story. . . . This book will touch a nerve like no other, especially if you’re a boomer with an elderly parent in need of care. Bring tissues, and bring your heart. They Left Us Everything is a jewel.”— Courier & Press “Generous and heartfelt, Johnson's book offers an intimate look at family and especially mother-daughter connections. It is an uplifting affirmation of human relationships and the cycle of life itself. A warmly candid memoir of navigating family, aging, and death.”— Kirkus Reviews “[ They Left Us Everything ] is the kind of slim, unassuming memoir that hits you deep in the gut . . . Amid the scraps of paper left in jacket pockets, family photos and pieces of furniture, part of the “everything” our parents leave us with are our memories of them, good and bad.xa0 Perhaps figuring out what to do with them is as close to a manual for grief as we get.”— National Post “Johnson writes with clarity, wit and a powerful descriptive voice that makes the rambling family home she moves back into for 16 weeks a character in itself.”— NOW Toronto “A fascinating and delightful story – a satisfying and thought-provoking book.”— The Parry Sound North Star “Each word of They Left Us Everything is heartfelt and moving. We are privy to Johnson’s emotional journey to the point that it feels like she is part of our own family. Her story lingers inside, touching the soul.”— newz4u.net “At times heartbreaking and at others hysterically funny . . . the book’s descriptive prose brings [the] places and people to life and poignantly conveys the quasi-spiritual journey that helps Johnson overcome her grief.”— Publishers Weekly “[Johnson] takes you along on a journey that is emotional, humorous, and candid.”—Newstalk 1010 Plum Johnson is an award-winning writer who lives in Toronto. She had an American mother and a English father whose compromise was to raise their children as Canadians. Growing up on the shores of Lake Ontario, they made annual pilgrimages by car down Route 15 to Richmond, Virginia, stopping to read every historical marker along the way. They Left Us Everything was longlisted for the Leacock Medal for Humour, shortlisted for the Kobo Emerging Writer Prize, and was the winner of the RBC Taylor Prize for nonfiction.

Features & Highlights

  • A warm, heartfelt memoir of family, loss, and a house jam-packed with decades of goods and memories.
  • After almost twenty years of caring for elderly parents—first for their senile father, and then for their cantankerous ninety-three-year old mother—author Plum Johnson and her three younger brothers have finally fallen to their middle-aged knees with conflicted feelings of grief and relief. Now they must empty and sell the beloved family home, twenty-three rooms bulging with history, antiques, and oxygen tanks. Plum thought:
  • How tough will that be? I know how to buy garbage bags.
  • But the task turns out to be much harder and more rewarding than she ever imagined. Items from childhood trigger difficult memories of her eccentric family growing up in the 1950s and ’60s, but unearthing new facts about her parents helps her reconcile those relationships, with a more accepting perspective about who they were and what they valued.
  • They Left Us Everything
  • is a funny, touching memoir about the importance of preserving family history to make sense of the past, and nurturing family bonds to safeguard the future.

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Touching and introspective

I had the option to read this book for free through Penguin's "First to Read" program. I decided to read The Season for two reasons. First, Pride and Prejudice is one of my favorite books EVER, and any adaptation would already arouse my interest. Second, my daughter has gotten me into YA books recently, and I wanted to try more in this genre. I will say this was certainly not written by Jane Austen, but it was a great book nonetheless! If you're looking for hearty, strong literature, this is not the book for you. However, if you're looking for a classic story told with a modern twist, this is great. It was fun, humorous, and a very fast read!
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They Left Us Everything was a well written, emotional and captivating memoir.

The topic of this memoir is one that is sometimes difficult to talk about and even one that some would like to avoid. However, Plum's memoir was beautifully written and heartfelt. The writing was so different than anything thing I had read before. Which may be why I thought it was hard to get going in the beginning. However, as the book went on I was hooked. I was drawn into the family home, the garden, the "stuff" left behind and all the details that the author painted throughout the book. I loved the family history and especially Plum's mother. She was so interesting to me and even more so as the book went on. In a way it was like walking into a museum and learning all of these fascinating facts and getting a glimpse into someone's life. Although I am not currently dealing with the issues brought up in this memoir. I felt there were many moments I could relate to Plum throughout the book. I really enjoyed this read and would recommend it to anyone who is open to exploring some of the difficult aspects of aging parents. They Left Us Everything was a well written, emotional and captivating memoir. Thank you, First to Read and Plum Johnson for the opportunity to read and review this memoir.
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terrific memoir - 4.5/5 stars

They Left Us Everything was such an enjoyable memoir. It's the kind of story that anyone dealing with eldercare issues should be able to relate to.

When Plum Johnson's 93 year old mother died, she took on the task of cleaning out the 23 room house her parents had raised the family in since 1950. Located in Toronto Canada on the shores of Lake Ontario, the location more than the house in its current state made it prime real estate property.
Plum was the oldest child, in her early 60's at the time of her mothers death. She had three younger brothers. For 20 years she had been caregiver to her parents, first to her father with dementia and after his death, to her demanding mother who lived 40 minutes away.

As Plum begins the task of cleaning out her parents home, each nook and cranny she shifts through, unearths memories and things about her parents she never knew. She sorts through personal letters and childhood memories which stir much emotion.

I loved this story from the family dynamics to how what she thought would be a 6 week project took her16 months to complete An intimate look at the mother/daughter relationship, a journey on life and loss, and definitely a story that will make you appreciate the time spent with family while you have the chance.

4.5/5 stars
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Memoir of Loss

Losing your parents and having to clean house once they are gone is a strange and sad experience. In They Left Us Everything Plum Johnson documents her own experience of cleaning out the family home once her mother passes. With her siblings, Johnson goes through a wide range of household items, from centuries-old antiques collected by both sides of the family to all of the junk her mother piled up in her last years of life. But it is the house itself that becomes a focal point in the story, letting Johnson relive some of her childhood memories and learn more about her parents.

When I started reading this I thought it would be a straight middle-of-grief memoir and the exploration of what comes next after both parents die. But the book goes off on a few different tangents, such as the family lineage and quite a few pages dedicated to the letters exchanged between her parents during World War II. Although interesting, it seemed like these other stories bogged down the main point of the memoir.

*Received a copy of this book through Penguin First to Read
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Memories built on "stuff"

Most of us will be faced at some point with having to dispose of the "stuff" our parents, aunts, uncles, and/or siblings will leave behind. No matter how close we were to these family members, going through the physical remains of the lives they have lived can bring a wash of memories, sometimes pleasant, sometimes even gut-wrenching. The longer our relationship with the things that we must dispose of, the harder it may be to complete the task.

As Plum Johnson and her brothers faced the need to empty out 28 rooms (TWENTY EIGHT ROOMS!) of the house that had been the center of their family life for more than half a century, they knew the task would be enormous. As the story unfolds, the reader begins to understand just how massive an undertaking this was. Theirs is a family with history, lots of history, with documents and memorabilia going back centuries. So there were the mundane things that brought back memories of childhood and then the letters and books and silver and more that included references to famous historical figures.

Fortunately for the reader, Ms. Johnson is not only a good writer but also an almost compulsive recorder, as are her brothers. One sets out to develop a spreadsheet for all the books in the house, while she takes photos and documents the china and silver and more. Also fortunate for the reader, she narrates all this data collection and sorting in a most entertaining way.

Many of us may never have the luxury of spending more than a year to work through the clearing out of our parents' "estates," but this opportunity for Johnson and her brothers has also become an opportunity for the reader to learn more of her sometimes fraught relationship with both traditional British father and flower child mother. Even with the difficulties she mentions, this is not a tell-all memoir nor an effort to place any kind of blame on either of her parents for where her life has gone. That in itself is a wonderful anecdote to the many more negative memoirs so prevalent today.

As you read this--and you should--you may well find yourself wondering what your own left behind "stuff" will say to your own children or friends. Now might be a good time to start preparing your own "estate" for the inevitable clean up that must come. What will be the "everything" thay you leave behind for others?
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Tender Loving Care

When I read one hundred pages a day for three days in a row, it means that I LOVE the book. This was a "100-page-a-day" book.

Very touching and at times humourous account of Plum Johnson's life growing up with her brothers and parents, and later her loving, tender care of her parents during their sickness and old age.

The home itself, on the shores of Lake Ontario, is one of the main characters. In fact, parts of the movie "The Ref" were filmed here. My curiosity was so piqued that I watched "The Ref" as soon as I finished this memoir, for a glimpse of the house.