This Life Is in Your Hands: One Dream, Sixty Acres, and a Family Undone
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This Life Is in Your Hands: One Dream, Sixty Acres, and a Family Undone

Hardcover – April 12, 2011

Price
$14.97
Format
Hardcover
Pages
336
Publisher
Harper
Publication Date
ISBN-13
978-0061958328
Dimensions
6.5 x 1.25 x 9.75 inches
Weight
1.15 pounds

Description

From Publishers Weekly With urban farming and backyard chicken flocks becoming increasingly popular, Coleman has written this timely and honest portrait of her own childhood experience in Maine with her two homesteading parents during the turbulent 1970s. Inspired by the back-to-the-land lifestyle of Scott and Helen Nearing, Coleman's parents, Sue and Eliot, decided to create their own idyllic reality on 60 acres of land in Maine that was sold to them by the Nearing family for a token sum. While Coleman emphasizes the beauty of growing up in a family culture that valued the bounty of nature and freedom of expression, she does not hesitate to also expose farming's detrimental effect on family life—her own well-being as well as the accidental death of her younger sister. (Mar.) (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved. “Intense readability.... haunting power.... as well as lush, vivid atmosphere that is alluring in its own right.... [A] story so nuanced that it would be a disservice to reveal what was in store. If you want to know what happened, read it for yourself.” — Janet Maslin, New York Times “A fascinating look at the roots of the organic movement as well as a cautionary tale about the limits of idealism and the importance of forgiveness.” — Washington Post “Rendered with sublimity…. [Coleman] fluently describes the power of the natural world, familial love and heartbreak, grace after loss.” — New York Times Book Review “Coleman’s moving recounting never loses hope of redemption.” — People , Lead Review "People Pick" “The Colemans and the Nearings . . . worked hard to create an alternative economy that is still growing in rural America. This memoir is evidence of their great sacrifices. — Los Angeles Times “Combine the sincerity of Walden with the poignancy of The Glass Castle, add dashes of the lush prose found in The Botany of Desire, and you get This Life Is in Your Hands…. I was engaged and deeply moved by this evocative tale of Paradise found then lost.” — Wally Lamb, The Hour I First Believed “[This] is a rare breed of book-a memoir that justifies its own existence; that feels like it needs to exist…. Coleman shows that without the essential ingredient of heart, any family-no matter how perfect and revolutionary it seems-is in danger of experiencing real loss.” — NPR.org “Lyrical and down-to-earth, wry and heartbreaking, This Life Is In Your Hands is a fascinating and powerful memoir. Melissa Coleman doesn’t just tell the story of her family’s brave experiment and private tragedy; she brings to life an important and underappreciated chapter of our recent history.” — Tom Perrotta, author of Little Children and The Abstinence Teacher “With beautiful lyrical prose, Coleman shows us what life in a 1970s back-to-nature farm was like, and the dear price her family paid pursuing their dream.” — Ann Hood, author of The Red Thread and The Knitting Circle “Her memoir is as wrenching as it is beautifully written.” — Cleveland Plain Dealer “Melissa Coleman’s enthralling account of ‘70s back-to-the-land living is an important cultural and emotional document: this is a story about surviving and, eventually, thriving amidst the shadows of loss.” — Heidi Julavits, author of The Uses of Enchantment “A dream, a family, a heartbreaking tragedy―and a book I could not put down. Melissa Coleman’s memoir of a back-to-the-land childhood is fresh, organic, and gorgeously written.” — Peter Behrens, author of The Law of Dreams “An absorbing read that intelligently arrays the romanticism of living off the land against the emotional challenges of moving off the grid.” — Grist Magazine “This uncompromising memoir is tender, nonjudgmental, and heartfelt.” — Tuscon Citizen “A beautifully rendered memoir about growing up in a unique environment fueled by experimental back-to-the-land living. . . . Coleman illuminates the beauty of growing up in a family culture that valued nature and freedom of expression, but also frankly exposes farming’s negative impact on her family. — Star Tribune Set on a rugged coastal homestead during the 1970s, This Life Is in Your Hands introduces a superb young writer driven by the need to uncover the truth of a childhood tragedy and connect anew with the beauty and vitality of the back-to-the-land ideal that shaped her early years. In the fall of 1968, Melissa Coleman's parents, Eliot and Sue—a handsome, idealistic young couple from well-to-do families—pack a few essentials into their VW truck and abandon the complications of modern reality to carve a farm from the woods. They move to a remote peninsula on the coast of Maine and become disciples of Helen and Scott Nearing, authors of the homesteading bible Living the Good Life . On sixty acres of sandy, intractable land, Eliot and Sue begin to forge a new existence, subsisting on the crops they grow and building a home with their own hands. While they establish a happy family and achieve their visionary goals, the pursuit of a purer, simpler life comes at a price. Winters are long and lean, summers frenetic with the work of the harvest, and the distraction of the many young farm apprentices threatens the Colemans' marriage. Then, one summer day when Melissa is seven, her three-year-old sister, Heidi, wanders off and drowns in the pond where she liked to play. In the wake of the accident, ideals give way to human frailty, divorce, and a mother's breakdown—and ultimately young Melissa is abandoned to the care of neighbors. What really happened, and who, if anyone, is to blame? This Life Is in Your Hands is the search to understand a complicated past; a true story, both tragic and redemptive, it tells of the quest to make a good life, the role of fate, and the power of forgiveness. As a freelance writer, Melissa Coleman has covered lifestyle, health, and travel. She lives in Freeport, Maine, with her husband and twin daughters. Read more

Features & Highlights

  • “Lyrical and down-to-earth, wry and heartbreaking,
  • This Life Is in Your Hands
  • is a fascinating and powerful memoir. Melissa Coleman doesn’t just tell the story of her family’s brave experiment and private tragedy; she brings to life an important and underappreciated chapter of our recent history.” —Tom Perrotta
  • In a work of power and beauty reminiscent of Tobias Wolff, Jeannette Walls, and Dave Eggers, Melissa Coleman delivers a luminous, evocative childhood memoir exploring the hope and struggle behind her family's search for a sustainable lifestyle. With echoes of
  • The Liars’ Club
  • and
  • Don’t Let’s Go to the Dogs Tonight
  • , Coleman’s searing chronicle tells the true story of her upbringing on communes and sustainable farms along the rugged Maine coastline in the 1970’s, embedded within a moving, personal quest for truth that her experiences produced.

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The Good Life.

Helen and Scott Nearing are a well known couple who got famous by writing a book called "the good life" in the 50's , which was basically a how to guide for their Back-to-the-Landers movement. They touted a lifestyle that would have you dividing up your day into three blocks of four hours: Bread Labor-working towards getting food, shelter, water, and clothing. Civic work- doing something for community. Professional pursuits or recreation. They were way ahead of their time, growing organically, being environmentally conscience, and this appealed to a lot of couples in the 70's who might have picked up some literature the Nearings wrote and decided that the simple but hard life was for them.

The author of this book "This life is in your hands' Melissa Coleman, her parents Eliot and Sue were young and bright eyed about making a difference in the world, they had both come from well to do families and wanted to raise their family a completely different way. So they bought 60 some acres from the Nearings in Maine and began a journey into homesteading, hardship, and ultimately heartbreak. Melissa herself was born on the farm, as was her sister Heidi and Clara. It's mostly about her parents, and their drive towards living "the good life" as dictated by Helen and Scott Nearing. Making their own home for 600 bucks when the average home that year cost 20,000. I myself grew up watching Little House on the Prairie and wanting to live in that cabin, with no electricity, living off the land and having that satisfaction. This book was a wake up call for me to say "well maybe it should just stay a silly dream" Its hard enough being a kid, its even harder being a kid that has to take on responsibilities like Melissa's parents expected her to do. Everyone plays a part on a farm, and its everyone's blood sweat and tears that make it work.

I was attracted to this book for the decade, the 70's fascinate me, but I was also interested in the subject matter of course. The "hippies" the "nuts and twigs", those commune living smelly families who grow their own veggies and have no plumbing. It's admirable and frightening at the same time. The way this book plays out, on its way to a tragedy of the worst kind, took a while and if you're not the least bit attracted to farm life then this isn't the book for you. I quite enjoyed it.
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Promising but poignant tale

As someone who currently lives (almost) off the grid, I can assure you that life is neither simple nor carefree. The neglect that Lissie and her siblings experienced is all too typical of those who live by ideals and don't address practicalities. I won't spoil the pivotal point in the book, but the reader should be aware of the long ascent to it, as well and the life-time of consequences it effected. You will not soon forget this bittersweet tale.
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Read this book before you drop out of society and go back to the land.

Great story about escaping from modern life and getting back to the land, as becomes popular every few decades or so. Are we due for another round? The author tells her story tenderly and honestly, while also touching on the story of her hosts, Helen and Scott Nearing, who went back to nature in the 1930s. She is straighforward about her family’s failings and successes, and also those of the Nearings. Much more honest, I believe, than the Nearings ever were. The story is well told, too often sad, but always engaging. Thanks for a very interesting read.