Lunch with Buddha
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Lunch with Buddha

Paperback – October 24, 2012

Price
$15.85
Format
Paperback
Pages
392
Publisher
AJAR Contemporaries
Publication Date
ISBN-13
978-0984834570
Dimensions
5.5 x 0.98 x 8.5 inches
Weight
1.09 pounds

Description

"In this engaging follow-up novel. . .Merullo offers readers a hero that's a bit jaded but loving; a little lost but searching. One can't help but root for Otto . . .and hope that he finds the inner peace that, even if he doesn't quite know it, he desperately seeks. . . . a beautifully written and compelling story about a man's search for meaning that earnestly and accessibly tackles some well-trodden but universal questions. A quiet meditation on life, death, darkness and spirituality, sprinkled with humor, tenderness and stunning landscapes." - Kirkus Starred Review"alternately hilarious and poignant...Merullo's detailed descriptions of the American Northwest keep the writingxa0 grounded even as its themes turn increasingly spiritual.xa0 Merullo doesn't try too hard to prove any spiritual points, however.xa0 As a result, Lunch is a moving yet entertaining and never histrionic account of how an ordinary American family--with a few extraordinary members in its ranks--deals with the overwhelming grief of losing one of their own." Tricycle: The Buddhist Review "LUNCH WITH BUDDHAxa0examines questions that crop up sooner or later for many (most?) of us. Although Volya's wise lectures are helpful to Otto's search for answers, it is the variety of people they meet-and the attitudes [they] carry-that are what provide Otto with the evidence and reminders and motivation to decide to live a certain way....Reading Merullo's novel, I couldn't help but think of Emerson, Thoreau, and Whitman-their great reverence for independent, passionate, non-conformist thought-the different drummer-but never without the accompanying respect for it in others." -The Salem News "As we move through life, we search for the little explanations of life and living and making it all come together for us. Lunch with Buddha is a spiritual novel from Roland Merullo that tells the story of Otto Ringling, a man trying to understand the many lessons of his teacher Volya Rinpoche and the constantly shifting view of his complicated life. Lunch with Buddha will ring true with many readers. Highly recommended." -Midwest Book Review "I'm fascinated...with the way people deal with difficulty, hardship, pain, disappointment, tragedy and life's seeming inequities. And...how people deal with the spiritual search, in the face of life's hardships... Some people indulge their pain and pass it on. Some fight it to a draw. And some transcend. My goal - reflected in many of my characters - is to transcend. I'm not there yet." A DISCUSSION OF LUNCH WITH BUDDHA (Abridged version of a conversation between authors Roland Merullo & Matthew Quick that is included with the novel.) Matthew Quick: We've known each other for 5 or so years, during which we've discussed writing, publishing, spirituality, and life in general. Your fiction often explores the questions and concerns that are most important to you. What led you to write Lunch with Buddha? Roland Merullo: From my earliest years, when I was a devout Catholic boy living in a world where the rules and traditions of Catholicism were the air we all breathed, I've been puzzling over what I'll call, for lack of a better term, "the meaning of life". Why do people suffer? Why is the suffering spread around so unevenly? What are we doing here in the first place? What happens to a person's spirit after he or she dies? In my 20's, my eyes were opened to answers that came from places other than the Christian tradition. Rather than seeming like a challenge to that tradition, the wisdom of the East has always seemed to me like an expansion of it. Buddhism, especially, but also Sufism, Hinduism, and Taoism made the story of Jesus more understandable and believable to me, not less. I tend to write about what I'm most focused on, in my interior life. I've had a daily meditation practice for 30-some years and still do a lot of reading across the spiritual spectrum. I love to drive and see new places, love to eat different kinds of food, love to see the humor in life and make people laugh. So it was natural that all these things would find their way into a novel. And it was surprisingly easy for me, after a 7-year hiatus, to get right back into the mindsets of these characters. MQ: I've loved every Roland Merullo book I've read, and Lunch with Buddha may be my favorite yet. Why do you think that is? RM: I don't know. I'm too close to the book right now to have any kind of perspective on it at all. But I know from your fine writing, and from our talks, that you have the same great curiosity about life that I have. You wonder why people behave the way they do. You try to bring some light into the world when you can. And you make up stories that contain both the puzzlement and curiosity, and your idea of an answer to the big questions. We are mining that same vein, or maybe similar veins in the same mine. I really believe that every soul is put on earth with a certain set of skills and interests, and a certain purpose or purposes. I think we've both found what we're supposed to be doing here, and our job is simply to do it as well as we can, deal with whatever obstacles we face, and let the chips fall. MQ: Early in the novel you write: "Rinpoche seemed to live on the far side of some line that marked the boundary of ordinary American reality." Is that where you want to live? RM: I'm a very down-to-earth kind of person. I like realistic fiction and films. I like people who can cook, or hammer a nail, or fix a bleeding wound, or comfort a crying child. But I'm also not completely convinced that our assumptions are always 100% accurate. A few centuries ago people tormented Galileo for daring to say that the earth moved around the sun. For how many centuries before that was the assumption incorrect? Einstein's theories similarly challenged the prevailing "wisdom" of the day. So I think it's wise to be a little skeptical about our laws and truths. Maybe, for instance, at least some of the psychics who claim to be in contact with the dead are actually in contact with the dead. I don't know. I have very sensible friends whose late spouses "spoke" to them. Surely there are a lot of phonies and scammers out there, a lot of people who "see" the end of the world, or speak in tongues, or have visions, but are simply fooling themselves or someone who is paying them. Still, I leave the door open just a bit to the idea that there's more to life than the things we can measure and explain. In Breakfast , Otto starts out totally skeptical of Rinpoche's interest in meditation and the interior life. By the end of the novel he's been moved off that position a short ways. In Lunch , though he doesn't really want it to be so, he suspects that death is final, and he'll never have any communication with his beloved wife again. By the end of the novel that assumption, too, has been shaken just a bit. It's a tightrope walk. I'm a realist. I don't want to write flaky books. But I am all about pushing the boundaries of the interior life - which is the heart and soul of Rinpoche's talk in Spokane. MQ: "Why didn't good prevail?" your character asks. It's a question you and I have talked about many times. In most of your books, good usually does prevail, if only in some small way. Would you say that your fiction is a vehicle of hope? Is that why you write?" RM: Yes, a vehicle of hope. I think we both work that way, no? And, yes, that does reflect my view of life. I'm fascinated - and I think this shows itself in every single one of my books, even the golf books - with the way people deal with difficulty, hardship, pain, disappointment, tragedy and life's seeming inequities. And in the last few books it's been: how do people deal with the spiritual search, in the face of life's hardships? Some people indulge their pain and pass it on. Some fight it to a draw. And some people transcend. My goal - reflected in many of my characters - is to transcend. I'm not there yet. MQ: Otto says, "Whole libraries of subjects were off limits now, at least in my circles." Many of the ideas in Lunch with Buddha are "off limits" to so many people here in America, and yet, your work seems to provide a much needed bridge. Why does America need Buddha and Eastern thought? RM: As to the first part: Otto's speaking to the way conversations about certain subjects have become stultified in this society. The national discussion has turned into two camps ridiculing each other. Bigotry on the one hand, political correctness on the other. Thank God we still have comedians. To make a bad generalization, I think Eastern thought is primarily inner-focused. The pejorative term is "navel gazing." Well, I think we could use a bit more navel gazing in our society. We do so many wonderful things in the external world - photos from Mars, medicines for AIDS and other illnesses, remarkable surgeries, incredible technological gizmos. But when Steve Jobs (I may be wrong, but I believe he had a Buddhist practice) was dying he is reputed to have said, "Oh, wow!" As if he saw something. I somehow doubt that what he saw was the next generation of the iPad. I think it was some interior experience, some wider understanding of the miracle of life. Except in its mystical tradition - which is vast and of long standing but largely ignored in this society - Christianity is outer-focused. It's too often all about behavior and sin and loud prayer. Okay. But what Rinpoche does for Otto is to take that foundation of good behavior and show him that it is a starting point, not an end point. "The Kingdom of Heaven is within you." Jesus said that, not Buddha. But it's the Easterners who pursue it more avidly, and I think we would benefit from that pursuit. xa0 MQ: Please tell me there will be a Dinner with Buddha and that I will be able to read it relatively soon. RM: First, thank you for these superb questions, and for your friendship and your books. As for Dinner , well, I have laid the groundwork for that at the end of Lunch . Just need to come up with another route, a part of the country we haven't covered. I'm open to suggestion.

Features & Highlights

  • On the surface, LUNCH WITH BUDDHA is a story about family. Otto Ringling and his sister Cecelia could not be more different. He’s just turned 50, an editor of food books at a prestigious New York publishing house, a man with a nice home in the suburbs, children he adores, and a sense of himself as being a mainstream, upper-middle-class American. Cecelia is the last thing from mainstream. For two decades she’s made a living reading palms and performing past-life regressions. She believes firmly in our ability to communicate with those who have passed on. It will turn out, though, that they have more in common than just their North Dakota roots.In LUNCH WITH BUDDHA, when Otto faces what might be the greatest of life’s difficulties, it is Cecelia who knows how to help him. As she did years earlier in this book’s predecessor, BREAKFAST WITH BUDDHA, she arranges for her brother to travel with Volya Rinpoche, a famous spiritual teacher — who now also happens to be her husband. After early chapters in which the family gathers for an important event, the novel portrays a road trip made by Otto and Rinpoche, in a rattling pickup, from Seattle to the family farm in North Dakota. Along the way the brothers-in-law have a series of experiences — some hilarious, some poignant — all aimed at bringing Otto a deeper peace of mind. They visit American landmarks; they have a variety of meals, both excellent and awful; they meet a cast of minor characters, each of whom enables Rinpoche to impart some new spiritual lesson. Their conversations range from questions about life and death to talk of history, marijuana, child-rearing, sexuality, Native Americans, and outdoor swimming. In the end, with the help of their miraculous daughter, Shelsa, and the prodding of Otto’s own almost-adult children, Rinpoche and Cecelia push this decent, middle-of-the-road American into a more profound understanding of the purpose of his life. His sense of the line between possible and impossible is altered, and the story’s ending points him toward a very different way of being in this world.

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Funny and Wise

I am notorious for my cynicism. Show me a book that carries an "upbeat" message, and I'll show you a new way to light my wood stove. It's not just the soupiness or the upbeatitude of the message that bothers me, either. After all, we all need our fantasies. Rather it is the implicit arrogance in the proselytism, the smug certainties, and the lack of any sense of irony or humor endemic to this genre.

I love LUNCH WITH BUDDHA,optimism and all, because it lacks all the flaws of the genre I have just described. It is a very funny book, especially in the richness of its characterizations. It is suitably ironic because none of the major characters, not even the great teacher himself, takes himself or herself too seriously. It is a moving book because the problem it pivots on will belong to half of all people in love, sooner or later. It is a gripping book in the depth of the emotional morass from which Otto, the protagonist, tries so hard to remove himself. It is a brave and honorable book because it takes phonies and bigots severely to task, and even raps the knuckles of cynics like me.

Merullo is a skillful writer with a special talent for plot and character. If he wrote more about sex, he would sell more copies, but he is the kind of author who has to be completely comfortable with what he produces. He writes to satisfy his own standards, to bring enjoyment and knowledge to his readers, and not just to sell copies. He is totally authentic, as honest a writer as one can imagine.

In this novel , which is "spiritual" in both the French and English senses of that world, he recognizes that as repulsive as organized religions might appear to folks like me, that revulsion cannot negate the deep need for a spiritual life in each of us. Hard-wired for wonder, like it or not, even the most rational of us wants to pass through some wardrobe door into a world that doesn't make any sense but does so in a way that is holds some grace, even some beauty.

For me, Dostoyevsky offers that kind of experience. You need not be a Christian to accept his sense of true goodness. I feel the same way about Blaise Pascal,that most poetic of mathematicians and most touching of Christian apologists.

Merullo is less specific than either of these. He has no doctrine. No Christian, neither is he anything else easily defined. By the end of this book, however, with all its rollicking action and brilliantly-drawn characters, with all its gentle satire and vivid portraits of the West, I enjoyed a kind of relief, a kind of spiritual easing, that I have not felt in decades.

To tell the truth, that feeling didn't last. But that might be more my fault than the fault of this fine new novel.
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A Dharma Teaching Road Trip

I am a Buddhist, with respect for Buddhist teachers (and what they do), and novels that inspire. I like the characters in this story. I like that much of it is set in Washington (the Spokane area particularly), but that the narrator could be observing just as well anywhere else. The Buddhist teacher in the story instructs through ways that work, and is respected in the author’s description, as are others the story’s narrator interacts with, and learns from. I cried with some of the novel, laughed (“out loud”) with some of it, and appreciate the author’s vivid description and very believable dialogue (between characters, and internal). Inspiring fiction well worth reading: I am glad I did.
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Back in the embrace.....

When I first opened Lunch with Buddha by Roland Merullo, I had the distinct and comforting sensation of being embraced by a loving family after a long absence. I blogged about my love affair with Breakfast with Buddha and have revisited the book several times while waiting for the sequel. I've read or listened to random snippets in the meantime... always finding new wisdom.

Lunch brings a similar scenario. Otto Ringling, our reluctant hero, and his brother-in-law, the Buddha-esque Volya Rinpoche, travel in a rumbling elderly pickup from the Pacific Northwest to Dickenson ND. Their adventures along the way serve as vehicles (pun intended) for Rinpoche to teach subtle but profound lessons. This journey has a strong undertone of grief (I won't spoil the plot here, suffice to say I sobbed through Chapter 8), yet, as the story reveals, the connections we form and cherish often transcend physical life.

I applaud the quiet humor that Mr. Merullo provides... these journeys take me from laughter to tears within a few pages.

After living in Spokane for several years, I could easily relate to the geography of this journey. The vast open landscapes of the northern plains often remind me of the landscape of the mind. At first, that which appears to be mundane and/or cluttered (whether it be with scrub trees or miscellaneous thoughts), hidden treasures can be found when we look closely.

I love how Mr. Merullo brings the stories to conclusions without closing the door. In Breakfast, we knew that Otto had made some deep decisions, even though we weren't told what they were. I knew. And now, Lunch concludes with a similar hook, one that made me smile and feel deep and abiding satisfaction. Even though we aren't told the next chapter, we know.

Mr. Merullo has a gift for character and story.... lyrical prose, quiet metaphors that speak loudly, and characters that truly come to life. The question remains: What time is Dinner?
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Love this book...

An excellent follow-up to Breakfast With Buddha. Wonderful nuggets of spiritual wisdom all the way through this work of fiction. :)
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Moving, Profound, Wise

When a book is this good and combines so many elements, voice, sensibility, wisdom and, above everything else, a tender regard for the most profound of human difficulties, you can't just say, "It's great. You'll love it." That doesn't do the job by half.

For instance, I came across this line, "I think, in some way, our own grief embarrassed us." True, delicate, seemingly simple, but runs into the heart of being human.

The item I want to convey is an unstated quality, and one that is so deep and yet oddly cheerful as to leave me at a loss. How would you describe the smile of the Dalai Lama? What does it show? This book is something like that. Mysterious, potentially life altering, lovely.
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Three Stars

I read Breakfast with Buddha and found it more interesting than this sequel.
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Breakfast was better!!

Enjoy reading Roland Merullo's novels. Breakfast with Buddha was much better, but this was also worth the time.
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Another gem from Roland Merullo

I loved Breakfast with Buddha, and this sequel didn't disappoint. Merullo has a gift of illuminating the magic in the mundane.
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A Wonderful read...love the author

I read Breakfast with Buddha and didn't want it to end. I was so happy to find a continuation of Lunch with Buddha. I love how the Authur Roland Merullo takes me along on a ride with such a wonderful strong spirited character.
Humorous and compassionate, I love reading this book.
Also must mention I bought this book Used but the condition was like new....very pleased
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Road Trip With Yoda

Otto Ringling is an editor at a major New York publishing house. His wife Jeannie has just died after a long struggle with cancer. He and his children are going through terrible grief and not coping well. Otto's sister Cecilia arranges a summer vacation cum spiritual retreat for the bereaved, to be accompanied by her husband, Otto's brother-in-law. Cecilia is a new-agey type who has helped people make contact with "the other side." Her husband, Rinpoche Volya, is described as a "sort of Buddhist monk," a warm-hearted, down-to-earth, spiritual teacher, with a great sense of humor, who talks like Yoda from the Star Wars movies.

The novel describes the road trip these characters make through the American Northwest, Otto's grieving, the children's growing away, Jeannie's sufferings, people encountered along the way, spiritual insights, tests and trials, and hilarious incidents with the sort-of monk and the small town locals. Many interesting folks cross their path, including some vintage American narrow-minded bigots and haters, whom the author clearly despises. I won't tell you how the book ends, so you'll have to read it yourself. If you're in the mood for a spiritual yet humorous novel, you'll love it.

Author Roland Merullo writes lucid, readable prose, without pretentiousness, that will draw you along page after page. The characters are mostly likeable, the spiritual teaching is mostly warmed-over Buddhism, the dialogue is mostly believable, although the Yoda dialect can be a bit over the top at times. Does Otto achieve enlightenment? Does he encounter the Buddha? Does he make contact with his late wife? Read the book and see what you think. I recommend it. Reviewed by Louis N. Gruber.
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